Re: They're just not that into me.

suzyQ3 · ‎03-09-2010

@FLgardener wrote:
I have come to a realization that I need to strengthen myself and not present myself as weak in the world. I'm working on it.

Stiff upper lip, @FLgardener? Personally, I think it's far less taxing to present yourself just as you really are -- I bet it's a combo of strength and vulnerability (my choice over the word "weak")

~Who in the world am I? Ah, that's the great puzzle~ Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland

catwhisperer · ‎07-11-2010

@FLgardener ...same thing happened to me when my DH died. Most relatives and friends treated me like I died too. I no longer have anything to do with these people. I don't need people like that in my life and have moved on. I wish the best for you and hope you can move on as well.

I promise to remind myself every day that I am strong, courageous, and resilient.

QTsMom · ‎04-22-2019

FLGardener,

I am so sorry for your loss, both your husband and those that have left along the way.

I have not lost a spouse to death, but even though it is certainly not the same, I did loose my husband of 29 years to divorce. Not only was I in grief, but i felt humiliated - both of which caused me to retreat from life. I, too, was broken.

A number of years later when I wanted to reconnect with life, I too found many that had "moved on" or perhaps did not want to take the effort to rebuild a relationship with a single person instead of a couple, or just weren't in a place where reconnecting was something they wanted or needed. I found a new church, got involved to meet new friends, but I also made a list of those I wanted to make another concerted effort to try again. I contacted each person one-on-one and put forth my best effort. I've had various degrees of success, but I know now I've done all I can to salvage the relationship so now I'm ready to let them go.

I hope things begin to become easier for you. If by any chance you live in the NE part of FL, I would love to meet you.