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Re: The next person who says this abouy my husband is going to get PUNCHED!


@SeaMaiden wrote:

@haddon9 wrote:

@SeaMaiden wrote:

Many times people make remarks about issues we may be sensitive about and they do not realize that the remark was hurtful so upsetting. I know how you feel @Huge Hannah

 

My issue at the time was being bow legged due to severe arthritis in both knees causing my knees to bow out....people made jokes....called it cute....and I was in so much pain at the time, and so sensitive about my legs, I would just walk away and cry....they did not realize how remarks up set me. 

 

Today I have two new bionic knees...and straight legs...so no more comments or hurtful jokes.  But, I know how it feels to have people say things about a health issue that you are living with everyday.   Unless you have experienced it....you do not understand the hurt.


@SeaMaiden . I'm afraid that I have a similar condition.  However instead of being bow legged I'm very knock kneed!  I've had it all of my life (the ugliest knees!) but it's gotten more severe as I've gotten older and now my knees (particularly my right knee) are in so much pain I limp when I walk.  Time to see a specialist in the new year.

 

If you don't mind answering could you let me know if you are now pain free?  How long did it take for you to recover from your knee replacement?

TIA!


@haddon9     Yes. Please do go see a joint specialist to let them know what they can do.  Every case whether knock kneed or bow legged is different. I can only tell you how my outcome was....  I was on crutches because I waited too long,.... I also had at time two bad hips so my pain at age 58 was really bad.   I do not know your age or how bad your knees are... but DO NOT WAIT TOO LONG!  A good /better/best outcome does not get better with time.  Do it sooner than later.

 

I had a very good outcome with my two bowed out knees... I have NO PAIN at all    and my legs are beautifully straight Smiley Happy.

 

I had both knees done at the same time in 2013... called bilateral knee replacedment..... you would most likely want to do that as well because you can not have one knock knee fixed and one not fixed.  It makes healing too difficult.    Some surgeons are not qualified to do bilateral knee replacement... you want to find a surgeon who  has done many of these so be very paticular on who you choose... do your homework on picking out  the best surgeon. If you lived in the Seattle/ Renton WA. area I would give you    name of my surgeon as he is one of the best in the country

 

He also replaced both my hips in 2015... so I am now totally "FIXED" and doing very well. 

 

As far as pain.... yes there is discomfort. You will get good pain meds and just know that the pain you feel AFTER SURGERY  is not the same pain you feel NOW  with the arthritis.... it is a healing pain and gets less and less. You will experince with the healing and the physical Therapy about 8 weeks of real  discomfort.... sleeping is difficult at first.... but as the weeks progress everything gets better and better every day!  The body heals and before you know it you will be SO GLAD YOU DID THE SURGERY.   IT IS WORTH IT!

 

A free website called BoneSmart . org is so wonderful... I used the chat rooms everyday to  discuss with others and share and learn about joint replacement.   So if you have lots of questions about your particular type of knock kneed surgery.. others can answer your questions based on them having had that surgery.  Please visit the website and   open an account and use it.  IT IS REALLY AMAZING.

 

  Best wishes to you on your journey and know that the surgery is really a miracle and you will get your life back OUT OF PAIN. 


@SeaMaiden  Thank You!!  I'm happy to hear that things turned out very well for you!  You must be so gald that you finslly got it taken care of!

 

I'm in the Philadelphia area and I'm sure there must be some very good specialists here that can address my conditon.  I just need to find him or her.

 

I'm 64 and my knees have been painful for a few years...mostly going up & down stairs.  It's only been since Thanksgving that my right knee has been pretty bad just walking without the stairs.

 

I plan on checking out the site BoneSmart . org.  Thank you for the information!  I appreciate it!!  Smiley Happy

 

 

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Re: The next person who says this abouy my husband is going to get PUNCHED!

There were others in the room during your visit?  That is very odd.  

 

Hannah, were you the poster that is srlling your house and was upset at the agent?  If so, how did it go with you selling by owner?

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Re: The next person who says this abouy my husband is going to get PUNCHED!


@GenXmuse wrote:

Although I think it’s important to screen for domestic abuse, that comment would be off-putting. I am in my 40’s and am on cellcept which is a side effect of the medication so I get stares and feel like covering my arms up in public.


I do cover my arms in public.  I also will use concealer on the really red or purple ones.

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Re: The next person who says this abouy my husband is going to get PUNCHED!

People just don't think before they speak sometime, people who should know better too. I was taking a night course at a local university back in the 90's and I had a wisdom tooth pulled and my jaw was bruised and swollen. The nutty professor commented in front of the whole class,"looks like Mrs. -----husband beat her up". I was mortified and reported him, gave him a bad review at the end of the course.

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@stevieb  This whole thing reminds me of another of our old friend posters we haven’t seen recently and some of her issues with doctors. 


@Sooner

You definitely might be on to something.

Need to chew on this for a bit. 

We all have a writing style, whether we realize it or not...

not seeing it, but time will tell.

It’s the holidays & full moon coming up. Watch out!


@sidsmom  And that old argumentative nature never really goes away does it?  Yes.  It does give us something to chew on!  Tough as it is!  LOL!!! 

@Sooner @sidsmom @stevieb

 

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@Drythe

 

Think of the sunshine state, 'HH' and 6 numbers.

 

Never has much good to say about Drs. or kids/young people.

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@Sooner

 

Did one of her Sn's use the initials HH?

 


@Sooner wrote:

@sidsmom wrote:

@Sooner wrote:





@stevieb  This whole thing reminds me of another of our old friend posters we haven’t seen recently and some of her issues with doctors. 


@Sooner

You definitely might be on to something.

Need to chew on this for a bit. 

We all have a writing style, whether we realize it or not...

not seeing it, but time will tell.

It’s the holidays & full moon coming up. Watch out!


@sidsmom@stevieb  The more I have read, the more I think I may be right.  Maybe the time out has ended. . . should we be "happy" about that?  LOL!!!


 

Stop being afraid of what could go wrong and start being positive what could go right.
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Re: The next person who says this abouy my husband is going to get PUNCHED!


@Huge Hannah wrote:

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I have a medical condition called purpurra--it's very common among older people. Quite simply, it causes your skin to get think and delicate and sometimes just looking at (or so it seems) can cause a blood blister--a pooling of blood right under the skin. It looks rather unpleasant but it's harmless.

 

More than one person--one is even a DOCTOR who should know better -- has "joked" that my husband caused these bruises. Does anyone realize how much trouble this kind of "joke" could cause???

The last person who did this was a doctor just last week, and I immediately got in his face, told him it wasn't funny, could get my husband in trouble, and don't ever say anything like that again.

 

What the hell is wrong with people????? Woman Mad


@Huge Hannah,  did you stop to think that your apparent over reaction might have raised red flags?  Denial, usually very strong denial, is typical when someone is being abused. 

 

Since you knew the doctor was joking  your reaction could well have him suspicious about how much bruising is due to your condition and how much might be the result of abuse particularly since you stressed that your husband could get in trouble.  That alone would be a red flag--fear that your husband could get in trouble and the consequences you might face.





I appreciate your "amateur psychology" (where did you get your degree?) but you are wrong.

 

 

Wow, Hannah, your posts sound so angry. Marp's point is valid.  Anyway, all I wish for you is peace.

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Re: The next person who says this abouy my husband is going to get PUNCHED!

With so many people responding to say that the medical staff must rule out abuse,it would be fair for you to cut your doctor some slack.I am sure he finds that line of questioning uncomfortable too and he was thinking of your safety.I hope that you will be able to move on from your anger about this and just think that there are peo0le who care enough to be concerned.I am sure that this condition is very upsetting to live with but you must so you could be happier if you can accept yourself and the changes.i have a friend in her forties who is covered in psoriasis.She is a personal trainer at a gym.People come up to her all of the time to say that she should cover up those sores and ask if she is contagious.She refuses to hide her skin and tells anyone who asks what is going on.Many people since have offered different ideas to help heal the sores.People care and she feels comfortable in her own skin.She has more clients than the other trainers in spite of her imperfections so it’s not about how you look but who you are...do you love and accept yourself?

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Re: The next person who says this abouy my husband is going to get PUNCHED!

Why in the heck would anyone bring a medical condition on line, especially on a shopping network Blog and Forum.

 

I hope I never get that lonely as to have to share personal happenings with a shopping network blog and forum.

 

 

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@I am still oxox  We had a about 6 months ago or so who had been here a long time and was concerned about doctors, dogs in stores and some other issues that popped up all the time.  She was a very long time poster who'd had several nicknames over the years.

 

I was just thinking this was a similar topic to a lot of posts from her.  May or certainly may not be the case, I was just seeing if anyone else had been reminded of some issues brought up by this "happy" individual. Woman Happy