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[just bee]

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@KaySD wrote:

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@geezerette @just bee 

As usual, interesting thoughts. I know what you mean about the background voices thing, though. My whole life, I've had quiet in my house almost all the time. I only had music or talk or TV on when I specifically wanted to pay attention. Now i'm home almost all the time, I have taken to having audio on a lot, even when I'm not really listening. I listen to streaming radio stations, podcasts, and audiobooks. I also found an app that has "coffee shop" sounds on it--clattering cups, murmurs of conversations, miscellaneous other soounds. 

I will never get to the end of the streaming video I have access to, and I don't miss TV and all that deluge of advertising, not even a tiny little bit. I can hear live news when I want to, and everything else can be from last week, or last season, or last decade, or more.

As for feeling patient or impatient, which feels better at any given time? Choose that!!! Who says you have to pick only one? Or that you have to do what someone else thinks? Amiright? Yes? Yes? No?

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@KaySD 

Commercials have always been annoying but now they're just insufferable.

And that's all I'll say about that.

[just bee]

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@geezerette @just bee @aprilskies 

What you are saying about the yongsters growing up in these times is so true. And I guess the same could be said about everyone...

I have a lot of confidence in the young people. Yes, damage has been done. Yes, they will be affected by the times they are living in, and by their parents' generation, and increasingly, by what's going on all over the world. Plus, it's harder to see, but I believe there is a great deal of goodness and creativity going on along with the damage and pain.

And childhood isn't destiny. We have a million examples to show that. The younger ones will grow up and they are their own people, with their own choices to make. I think they have a great deal of knowledge and experience and wisdom to draw on. Probably more than I'm even capable of perceiving. What they choose might not be my choice, but that hardly matters--it doesn't need to be.

Am I a cockeyed optimist? Could be. I do choose to have faith that everything is in divine order. Maybe those two things are the same. 

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@KaySD 

I just remember when I was a kid and anything that happened to me was the most important thing in the world.  Struggles with algebra.  Someone looked at me cross-eyed.  I got a "B."  Acne.

My parents would just look at me like I was from another galaxy.  And I couldn't figure out why they weren't concerned.

These were people who lived through the Great Depression and World War 2.  And that was only the half of it.

They had something that I don't see in my younger patients or in their parents: Coping skills.  

And that's a problem.  Will they develop them at some point?  It used to be that you had them by the time you hit adulthood.  But I'm seeing adults who don't have them.

[just bee]

@geezerette 

My coping skills require some tweaking.

[viva923]

hey all

lost 2 sites on computer, my brain is fried NO LUCK as of yet getting sites back, working with someone at one of the sites, no luck yet, sure hope I get it back.

ok guys later.

[just bee]

[just bee]

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@viva923 wrote:

hey all

lost 2 sites on computer, my brain is fried NO LUCK as of yet getting sites back, working with someone at one of the sites, no luck yet, sure hope I get it back.

ok guys later.

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@viva923 

Keep us updated.

[just bee]

Signing off...

[rnmom]

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@geezerette wrote:

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@geezerette 

Confession: The dog has been doing my taxes for the past six years.

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@just bee 

I wish I could get mine to do the same.  I'm sure she'd be cheaper than the accountant.

Probably smarter, too.

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@geezerette 

Tell me about it.  

My person has a template on her computer and she just plugs in the current year's numbers.  Done!  Then I hand over my credit card.

That's why I'm letting the dog deal with it.  The only problem is that he knows my financial situation so I'll never be able to switch to cheaper kibble.

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@just bee 

Yep.

I've been trying to watch her food intake, especially treats, now that she's getting older.  I'd always heard that Rottweilers eat anything, but I had no idea how true that is!  

This is the look I get:

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@geezerette 

YES!

You would think we starve this dog the way he's been begging strangers for treats.  One look at him should be enough to dispel that rumor.

But the older he gets, the more he wants to eat.  The landscaping crew dropped parts of their meals all over our yard and guess who found them?

The crew's been gone for weeks, but the dog is out there every day, searching for some crumb he might have missed.

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@just bee 

I thought that was just mine.

But I shouldn't be surprised, I do the same thing.🍔🌭🥓🍕🍟

(At least I'm not out scrounging for deer poop.🤮)

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@geezerette @just bee - My oldest Chessie is the same way. He's always loved food but it seems the older he gets he's obsessed. He eats 3 times a day and if it's even an hour or so before he gets fed he stalks me constantly, following me everywhere. 

Then when I actually go to get the bowls he will whine constanty until he gets fed. It is so annoying. I don't know what's gotten into him recently. 

[rnmom]

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@just bee wrote:

I would just like to be able to purchase items without having these debates with myself every time I want to take a shower.

Am I just cranky?

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@just bee, No, it is not just you. Why cant purchasing products just be easy. Its important to support companies that you think are doing things right, our dollars are the vote.  I go through the same thing with animal cruelty free. Just when you find a line that is okay, then they get sold. I bought items that are not cruelty free and it dawned on me shortly after I clicked submit. I have felt guilty ever since. I dont want to feel guilty over that. It is just one more feeling I can do without.

It is important for me to go cruelty free where I can, so I will keep mindful going forward where products are concerned. But these days, companies are so wrapped up in their own agendas, you have to do research just to see if you agree.  I really just want to go to the store and buy what I need with exhaustive research. I think I used to like the research and comparing costs and all that at one point, I really dont enjoy it anymore.  I want certain things to just be simple. 

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@aprilskies - I totally agree with you and have been exactly the same. I really tried hard to make it a point to go cruelty free a few years back as much as I reasonably could, starting with skin care and makeup and I tried to move into bath and body products, fragrance, even some household cleaners, etc.

With everything that's been going on this past year, that has honestly not been one of my priorities in the least. I'm back to buying my cleaning supplies from the dollar tree and that includes a lot of toiletries too.

I was trying to at least keep cruelty free with makeup and skincare because I have brands that I like, then I discovered that the Pacifica cleansing oil that I really liked was discontinued. Of course it was. So I just bought a big ol' tub of Ponds cleansing cream. I used to use it years ago. It's not cruelty free but I just didn't have the energy to start searching around for something new.

I did feel guilty about it, and still do a bit, but I just have too many other things to worry about right now than that. 

[just bee]

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@rnmom wrote:

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@aprilskies wrote:

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@just bee wrote:

I would just like to be able to purchase items without having these debates with myself every time I want to take a shower.

Am I just cranky?

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@just bee, No, it is not just you. Why cant purchasing products just be easy. Its important to support companies that you think are doing things right, our dollars are the vote.  I go through the same thing with animal cruelty free. Just when you find a line that is okay, then they get sold. I bought items that are not cruelty free and it dawned on me shortly after I clicked submit. I have felt guilty ever since. I dont want to feel guilty over that. It is just one more feeling I can do without.

It is important for me to go cruelty free where I can, so I will keep mindful going forward where products are concerned. But these days, companies are so wrapped up in their own agendas, you have to do research just to see if you agree.  I really just want to go to the store and buy what I need with exhaustive research. I think I used to like the research and comparing costs and all that at one point, I really dont enjoy it anymore.  I want certain things to just be simple. 

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@aprilskies - I totally agree with you and have been exactly the same. I really tried hard to make it a point to go cruelty free a few years back as much as I reasonably could, starting with skin care and makeup and I tried to move into bath and body products, fragrance, even some household cleaners, etc.

With everything that's been going on this past year, that has honestly not been one of my priorities in the least. I'm back to buying my cleaning supplies from the dollar tree and that includes a lot of toiletries too.

I was trying to at least keep cruelty free with makeup and skincare because I have brands that I like, then I discovered that the Pacifica cleansing oil that I really liked was discontinued. Of course it was. So I just bought a big ol' tub of Ponds cleansing cream. I used to use it years ago. It's not cruelty free but I just didn't have the energy to start searching around for something new.

I did feel guilty about it, and still do a bit, but I just have too many other things to worry about right now than that. 

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@rnmom 

Well, yeah, there's that...

When you're put in the position of having to think about the most basic things, you don't have the luxury of worrying about the other stuff.