Among Friends

[Shanus]

@JoyFilled Warrior   That's a beautiful way to remember your Dad. His "light" will always be with you.

I need to light 3 candles for my parents and my  younger brother who died unexpectedly at 39 from a heart attack. He had no children and his wife was not Jewish, so I light the candle in his memory. My parents lived into their 90's...a long happy life, but never long enough for those they leave behind.

Thank you for sharing this with me.

[PamfromCT]

Thank you for this information.

A few years ago my DH's cousin's wife, an Orthodox Jew, sadly died.  We are Christians, as was her husband.  When we attended her funeral, and also at the cemetery, I did not observe any cutting of cloth.  But it was a large funeral.  They had a wonderful marriage - both volunteered at his church and her synagogue.  It was the second marriage for both, and we enjoyed so many outings together.  He passed shortly after.

[Lucky Charm]

I've never heard of that before.  Would it be anyone or everyone in attendance or an article of clothing on display?  Perhaps something that belonged to the deceased?

Thank you for sharing this @Shanus 

[bmorechick]

@Marp   Wow, definitely an Eastern European tradition!

[Sage04]

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@occasionalrain wrote:

Religions are interesting to me. Because I have Jewish friends, I know about the tearing of clothing and covering of mirrors.

Jewish weddings are just the best. 

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I know nothing. @occasionalrain  concerning the covering of the mirrors, are the mirrors at the house of the person and for how long do they stay covered?

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[MalibuFox]

my heart is absolutely broken . But I would like to share the Kriah ribbon with you here if you wondering about what it looks like

[MalibuFox]

@I am still oxox I have them lit as well

[PhilaLady1]

@Lucky Charm 

Usually the closest family members would rip a small portion of their clothing, like a lapel on a suit jacket.  Usually just the spouse and/or grown children.  Just as there are occasional small differences of customs from one church congregation to another, the same is true in Judaism.

[beach-mom]

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@I am still oxox wrote:

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@Shanus wrote:

FYI, at most Jewish funerals, a piece of clothing is torn to express grief and pain. It also represents a broken heart. 

I just thought I'd share some info.

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Where did this come from am I missing something

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@I am still oxox - This tradition is first mentioned in the Torah or Old Testament in the book of Genesis. It continues to be mentioned throughout the Old Testament.

[spabar]

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@We rescue cats wrote:

Many years ago my agency handled the travel for most of the Jewish clientele in town, including the Rabbi. We were invited to speak to several of the congregation's groups at the synagogue, we were honored to be asked. But because our knowledge was limited and we did not want to misstep I bought a set of books: "The Jewish Book of Why". Fascinating, beautiful and enlightening.

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@We rescue cats it's too bad everyone doesn't share your attitude. 😢