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[2blonde]

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@Laura14wrote:

I am so over the younger generation deciding they don't like the rules anymore.  If you don't care for them, stay home.  Or better yet, scratch up your own money to have your own prom which is extremely expensive and not totally covered in the prom ticket price. 

Such a shame these kids haven't heard "No" enough in their lives and they should have by the time prom rolls around.  

When someone invites me to a party, I don't start criticizing the host's requests.  I choose to go or not go and conduct myself appropriately if I do.  

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@Laura14   It's too bad we don't live closer........we could sure have some big fun together (I like the way you think)!  

[Laura14]

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@2blondewrote:

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@Laura14wrote:

I am so over the younger generation deciding they don't like the rules anymore.  If you don't care for them, stay home.  Or better yet, scratch up your own money to have your own prom which is extremely expensive and not totally covered in the prom ticket price. 

Such a shame these kids haven't heard "No" enough in their lives and they should have by the time prom rolls around.  

When someone invites me to a party, I don't start criticizing the host's requests.  I choose to go or not go and conduct myself appropriately if I do.  

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@Laura14   It's too bad we don't live closer........we could sure have some big fun together (I like the way you think)!  

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@2blonde  Believe it or not, I am currently researching another place to live once I get my pharmacy certification which is imminent.  I am strongly leaning towards the Midwest.  If you live in a safe community with public transportation or can walk to everything, I am your potential new resident.  

[2blonde]

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@bonnieluwrote:

You  are talking to a gal who is old enough to remember we could not even wear pants to class (high school).  

Personally I think the prom is special and  those who go are stuck with whatever they wore... forever... since there will be pictures taken.  

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@bonnielu  Me too!  No pants, and dresses to the middle of the knee!

[2blonde]

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@Laura14wrote:

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@2blondewrote:

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@Laura14wrote:

I am so over the younger generation deciding they don't like the rules anymore.  If you don't care for them, stay home.  Or better yet, scratch up your own money to have your own prom which is extremely expensive and not totally covered in the prom ticket price. 

Such a shame these kids haven't heard "No" enough in their lives and they should have by the time prom rolls around.  

When someone invites me to a party, I don't start criticizing the host's requests.  I choose to go or not go and conduct myself appropriately if I do.  

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@Laura14   It's too bad we don't live closer........we could sure have some big fun together (I like the way you think)!  

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@2blonde  Believe it or not, I am currently researching another place to live once I get my pharmacy certification which is imminent.  I am strongly leaning towards the Midwest.  If you live in a safe community with public transportation or can walk to everything, I am your potential new resident.  

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@Laura14  I live in NE Ohio, 20 miles east of Cleveland, near Lake Erie.  Population 50,000.  Financially secure city with lots of shopping, restaurants, businesses, etc.  There are buses, but most of us rely on our own cars......depends on how close you are to everything.  Lots of uber users here too.

[stevieb]

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@Carmiewrote:

@stevieb  In my area, the school board sets the rules and dress code for the prom, not the principal.  The kids are welcome to attend the school board meetings if they wish.

They never attend unless they want to protest something. Where are they when decisions are being made?

The dress code is listed on the schools website and in the school handbook.  It isn’t a surprise when it is close to prom time what the requirements are. They are there to read each September at the beginning of the school year.

Every year like clock work, this subject comes up right before prom or when someone gets sent home from prom.

If the kids want a voice, they can’t wait until the last minute and expect to be heard. it’s too late then.

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@Carmie This makes a bit more sense. It might also teach those attending that if they want to have input they have to take the opportunities given to them to have that input. I recall in my area, there were general guidelines handed down from 'on high' and then each school had a committee comprised of students and with at least one faculty advisor, usually several, who developed the specifics, the theme and so on... Anyone proposing anything completely off the wall was vetoed but at least the process seemed to be a bit more inclusive.

[haddon9]

I'll never forget when my next door neighbor's daughter was going to prom 15 years ago.  She was a pretty, petite and slim girl but very large on top.  My neighbor from across the street and I went over to see her out on her front lawn and our eyes almost popped when we saw her!

The front of her dress was cut down to her waist and because she's so ample up top it almost looked obscene with her breasts spilling out!  

We couldn't believe that her mother would allow that dress but it seemed to us that she was quite proud of her daughter.... mean who would want their 17 year old daughter wearing that to the prom knowing what will likely happen after the event?!!

[Laura14]

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@haddon9wrote:

I'll never forget when my next door neighbor's daughter was going to prom 15 years ago.  She was a pretty, petite and slim girl but very large on top.  My neighbor from across the street and I went over to see her out on her front lawn and our eyes almost popped when we saw her!

The front of her dress was cut down to her waist and because she's so ample up top it almost looked obscene with her breasts spilling out!  

We couldn't believe that her mother would allow that dress but it seemed to us that she was quite proud of her daughter.... mean who would want their 17 year old daughter wearing that to the prom knowing what will likely happen after the event?!!

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@haddon9  That poor girl.  That's my point in adults needing to take the time to teach kids appropriate dress.  Everyone is so concerned about boys and their behavior but I guarantee that girl was probably talked about or worse on social media by other girls.  You just don't set kids up for that or at least have a real solid conversation with them to prepare them for the reactions they inevitably get when they dress a certain way.  

[haddon9]

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@Laura14wrote:

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@haddon9wrote:

I'll never forget when my next door neighbor's daughter was going to prom 15 years ago.  She was a pretty, petite and slim girl but very large on top.  My neighbor from across the street and I went over to see her out on her front lawn and our eyes almost popped when we saw her!

The front of her dress was cut down to her waist and because she's so ample up top it almost looked obscene with her breasts spilling out!  

We couldn't believe that her mother would allow that dress but it seemed to us that she was quite proud of her daughter.... mean who would want their 17 year old daughter wearing that to the prom knowing what will likely happen after the event?!!

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@haddon9  That poor girl.  That's my point in adults needing to take the time to teach kids appropriate dress.  Everyone is so concerned about boys and their behavior but I guarantee that girl was probably talked about or worse on social media by other girls.  You just don't set kids up for that or at least have a real solid conversation with them to prepare them for the reactions they inevitably get when they dress a certain way.  

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I'm sure she was talked about among her peers but as for social media Facebook was just beginning then and only available to college kids.  My neighbor from across the street and I couldn't believe the dress! 

[blackhole99]

Now we can't have it both ways, either the young woman decides what's appropriate and isn't judged for it or not. As long as she's not showing up nude on a horse, I say they are only young once. 

[Pook]

I think a lot of the problems result from the dress codes not being uniformly enforced.  The ones that usually make the news are the ones that show pictures of those sent away and then pictures of others dressed either in the same styles or even worse that were let in. The daughters of some influential parents, coach, school board member or their relatives are not judged by the same standards.