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[Q-Checker]

@Luvsmyfam Can you share what it is about school that your grandson does not like ? Maybe there will be some helpful advice on this forum?

[DearPrudence]

He will probably settle in soon. When my grandson went away to college (out of state) he called my son after the first week, saying he thought he made a mistake and wanted his dad to pick him up.  My son gave him a pep talk, and sure enough, he adjusted quickly.  Unfortunately at his first spring break, they closed the college due to covid! 

[Luvsmyfam]

@Q-Checker According to him,what he is learning now,he learned at the community college where he went last year.He says his professor s won't listen to him when he expresses his opinions.Also,he says the food they serve in the cafeteria is horrible,so he eat

S what's in his cupcakes or gets carry  outs.Trust me when I say this,he did not grow up with a silver spoon in his mouth.He was not spoiled while growing up.I only want him to be happy and content.

[spumoni99]

@Luvsmyfam   Well next semester he will have new classes and new teachers.  It is unfortunate about the food, he can probably opt out of the dining package. 

It will be worth it for him to secure a good future. A college degree opens doors.

[rms1954]

Maybe he's not cut out for the college life.

[Goodie2shoes]

@Luvsmyfam  It's awesome that you have your grandson there with you for the weekend ! Enjoy your precious time together. My 9 yo grandson loves to come over to stay the weekend. I always take him to his favorite place to eat Applebees ! 

He also loves to go to church with me. Grandchildren are special and a blessing !!

[spumoni99]

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@rms1954 wrote:

Maybe he's not cut out for the college life.

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 @rms1954 He has already  been in college for a few years, he just needs to adjust to this new college. 

[RedTop]

It's mid-term for local colleges here in WV, so hopefully your grandson has adjusted to his new surroundings and routine and is feeling more relaxed on campus.  Everything about college life is a major adjustment for freshmen.  

The first job I had after I was married was as secretary in the Housing office of the local college.  I was only one year older than the incoming freshmen, and it was an eye-opening experience with the number of students who dropped out in the first 6 weeks.  For most it was because they were homesick, a few were unhappy from the start because of their room assignment, not happy with their roommates, and some were just not mature enough to handle the responsibility of being on their own.  Quite a few who dropped out in the fall came back for the spring semester, but many out of state students chose to stay closer to home.  I was quite surprised at the number of students from FL, DE, NJ, and NY.  

[Q-Checker]

I think that your grandson is on the verge of learning some things about "adulting." A big part of that is learning to "keep your eye on the prize":  the degree, the  job opportunities, and the intellectual enrichment. There will likely be bumps (including some big ones) on the road and the challenge is to either "just suck it up" or learn what can be changed and how to change it.  For example, there will be great professors and classes in his path - and some not so great or even terrible. He can  learn to select the courses and professors that are the best fit for him. Change may sometimes not be possible and that is where "the sucking it up" part comes in. It is a reality and something  most of us eventually have to do in some part of our adult lives. I hope that your grandson becomes happier and more satisfied with this phase of his life and changes what can be changed, whether it be his classes, his major, his social life, etc.  In the meantime, it sounds like you are a refuge and a shoulder to cry on, hopefully only a temporary need. Sending him back with a "care package" of a few favorite foods can't hurt either. 

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[Luvsmyfam]

@Q-Checker I can't agree with you more.Before I took him back to his dorm today,I sent him home with left over pot roast,mashed potatoes and corn.I made him cinnamon rolls also to take.

As a grandparent,I worry,and that is why I try to do everything and just about anything for him.