Senior Years - Page 5

RinaRina · ‎03-13-2010

NO!

I'm a "loner" and like my privacy.

"The less you respond to negative people, the more peaceful your life will become."

RinaRina · ‎03-13-2010

@DiAnne wrote:
No. I live alone and I love my privacy. I have many interests and several friends - I am never lonely.

The only way I would ever consider that was if I was financially strapped and needed to rent a room for additional money but hopefully that will not happen!

My neighbor converted her basement into an apartment and does Air BNB.

Eventho' in the past, she's encouraged me to do the same, the thought of someone else living in my house gives me the creeps.

"The less you respond to negative people, the more peaceful your life will become."

blackhole99 · ‎08-22-2013

If my husband died, I would advertise for a young man who was energetic and handy who wanted a place to live, in exchange for taking care of my property. I live in the woods and there are many day to day things that crop up that I can not take care of by myself. Just today I noticed there was a large branch from a wild cherry tree that was about to fall down. Thank goodness my husband was able to cut it down and remove it. I have a basement apartment with a private entrance that is quite nice that he could live in. I would get myself a nice dog for companionship and protection.

Moonchilde · ‎05-23-2010

It doesn't specifically state, but it would appear the question is meant to ask if one would want to live with someone of the opposite sex in a platonic relationship, for ? other purposes. I think a broader question should be would we want to share living space with anyone, regardless of sex or age, as we age.

Having lived with roommates several times over the years and living with family now, I wouldn't want or "need" to live with someone if I had the money to pay others for physical help - housekeeping, home repairs, shopping, post-illness or surgery, etc. If I had the money I would much prefer to live alone and have the help as necessary, when I decided I needed/wanted it.

I am happy and peaceful when alone, and seek out my social activities as and when I choose, to suit me. I've kinda had it with having to aways please others in a shared living space. It's my reality but not my preference.

Life without Mexican food is no life at all

chiclet · ‎03-19-2010

Some people when they are seniors have a lot of family. A lady next door still has parents, children and grandchildren that she is close to. Those of us with no family or family that does not care might make a different choice. Also money can be a factor if your income is not enough to live comfortably. There are so many factors that you can not give a one size fits all answer.

Posh Poodle · ‎06-27-2011

As my wise MIL has replied to inquiries about dating again after being a widow for many years, "I haven't gone hungry yet."

DiAnne · ‎09-22-2010

@Moonchilde wrote:
It doesn't specifically state, but it would appear the question is meant to ask if one would want to live with someone of the opposite sex in a platonic relationship, for ? other purposes. I think a broader question should be would we want to share living space with anyone, regardless of sex or age, as we age.

Having lived with roommates several times over the years and living with family now, I wouldn't want or "need" to live with someone if I had the money to pay others for physical help - housekeeping, home repairs, shopping, post-illness or surgery, etc. If I had the money I would much prefer to live alone and have the help as necessary, when I decided I needed/wanted it.

I am happy and peaceful when alone, and seek out my social activities as and when I choose, to suit me. I've kinda had it with having to aways please others in a shared living space. It's my reality but not my preference.

@Moonchilde

I could not agree with you more! So far I have been lucky enough to live alone and I hope it continues but you never know what the future will bring.

CalminHeart · ‎03-09-2010

Heck no!! I'm perfectly content living alone. It's nice to come home to a place all by myself. I do charity work, work a little, have a few great friends, and take care of my elderly parents and disabled sister.

My disabled sister lives with my parents right now. She might end up coming to live with me at some point. I love her to pieces but am not sure we're made to live together. We shall see. I'll do whatever God asks me to do.

Calcgirl · ‎03-10-2010

Thank you for all the interesting inputs. I especially like the one concerning lonely vs alone; so true.

How this subject came up was I had dinner with some friends and one of them shared a man friend she cares for moved in with her. We are concerned for her because he pays very little, just food, car and gas. He does do some things around the house, which she likes. Our concern is it bothers her that he has no interest in marriage at all; both lost their spouses and his grown kids are not in favor of him getting remarried. She is a Christian who feels she is living in sin. I know you will ask why in the heck did she agree to this arrangement, as we girls did! He was suffering from depression, had prostate cancer and lost his business and went bankrupt; she is a very sweet lady and through loneliness and compassion offered and admitted, begged him to move in so she could care for him, assuming this would lead into marriage. In his defense, he was upfront with her about never getting married. I guess he tells her he loves her, for whatever that means. We are concerned, as is her kids that he is taking advantage of her good heart. She is not rich and lives on a fixed income ( I think retirement). He does appear to be kind to her and she is happier in many respects except for the guilt of living together in sin. With her permission I wrote this post to see what you gals thought. I should have been more precise with my original post. By the way they are both in their late sixties, he is a couple years younger than she is.