Regarding Your Wedding - Page 5

beach-mom · ‎03-09-2010

Fun stories! Thank you for starting the thread @AuntG, and beautiful picture @qvcfreak ! You were absolutely gorgeous, and I'm sure you still are!

I had a small church wedding. The girls made their dresses, and I bought my simple eyelet dress off the rack, as many as you did. I loved my dress; it was perfect for me. My mom bought my veil. My best friend/matron of honor was expecting. She told me to ask someone else, and I told her we would put a chair up there if we had to! As it turned out, her son was born two weeks after we were married! And she didn't need a chair.

DH flew in for our wedding. We were married in my parent's church, and a year later their pastor didn't even recognize us. He wanted to meet with us once, and DH fell asleep. Turns out he had walking pneumonia.

I didn't know his family, so my parents were wondering about a rehearsal dinner. My relatives coming in wanted crabs, so we decided on an old-fashioned crab feast with crabs, newspapers, sodas and beer. Our favorite place by the water had never done anything like that, because we took up the whole place, but they gladly decided to do it. We had a ball! After that they decided to offer it to others. DH's family- all except one of his sisters- all tried crabs, and loved them. His dad did ask us about having a rehearsal dinner at the hotel where they were staying when they got in a few days before the wedding, which was really nice.

So we got married, with DH not feeling well. We had a beautiful reception at a private hotel that was later swallowed by a chain. My college friends all came in (My roommate was living in Germany with her military husband and couldn't be in the wedding, but I was so honored she came. I had been in hers.) I couldn't spend the time I wanted with them!

I had told DH his family could invite anyone they wanted. His mom mistakenly assumed no one from there would come "that far." She decided his grandparents couldn't come because his grandpa couldn't make that trip. (He could have,) A few years later after his mom had passed away, we went up to the farm and took his dad to DH's cousin's wedding. While talking in the car, that came up, and DH told his dad what had happened. DH's dad never knew before that. I felt bad because so many of his family and friends gave us wedding gifts after. As DH said, even some close friends from "home" would have come.

So the only ones on DH's side were his immediate family, his coworkers, and a few local friends who weren't already ushers. That was back in the day when there was a "bride's" side of church and a "groom's.'" Two of Mom's friends moved over and sat there. It WAS a little lopsided!

We spent our wedding night at the hotel, after going to my parents' home to change and let everyone leave. DH fell asleep; I watched the summer Olympics.

We went to the beach for a few days, then visited his family. DH continued to fight his infection. Trying to be a good wife, I slathered his chest with Vicks, heated a white towel in the microwave, and lay it on his chest. The next morning his teenage sister was standing in the kitchen giggling. His mom was trying to figure out why her microwave smelled like Vicks! Way for me to make a good impression!

Thank you for letting me reminisce and share my memories!

RetRN · ‎10-01-2013

@beach-mom, loved reading about your wedding.

beach-mom · ‎03-09-2010

TY @RetRN ! I really poured my heart out, and it was fun remembering!

qvcfreak · ‎03-10-2010

@Effie54 wrote:
@qvcfreak Wow, you looked just beautiful!

Thank you so much ❤️

qvcfreak · ‎03-10-2010

Thank you so much @beach-mom ❤️

AuntG · ‎03-09-2010

You had a fairy tale wedding @FancyPhillyshopper! My thoughts about that day are similar to yours. For once in my life, I wasn't the least bit nervous. I was so happy and relaxed.

AuntG · ‎03-09-2010

@Effie54 wrote:
@qvcfreak Wow, you looked just beautiful!

I'll second that!

AuntG · ‎03-09-2010

@Bookplate wrote:
Interesting how many of us older women were not interested in the big wedding, or in my case, any wedding at all; just a marriage.
Also interesting is the tension between what the bride wants and what the family, usually the mother, wants.
Really big, expensive weddings started to take off in the 1980's and I never understood it and still don't.

Great observations, @Bookplate. I've was surprised at how many didn't want a big wedding, but weren't given much say in things.

patbz · ‎03-10-2010

My one and only wedding was in Barstow at the Marine base(DH and I were DoD employees, not in the military). I was 40 DH 34 and we paid for everything but used my parents generous gift to start husband's IRA. It was 1984 and wedding fashions weren't the best but I still love my shantung V neck bell sleeved dress ($300) and brimmed hat with floor length veil ($150). My parents and an aunt flew in from MD; most other guests were from various parts of CA ( some guests I had known in Germany and Korea when I worked in those places). We got married in Marine Corps chapel and had reception in a community hall on base. Bought in all food for a cold lunch buffet and had a keg; it was St. Patrick's Day. After the reception we drove to LA to leave for Hawaiian Honeymoon.

AuntG · ‎03-09-2010

@SloopJohnB wrote:
Picture it, Sicily 1922…....

Just kidding......

Picture it, Fort Lauderdale 1988…....

Had a beautiful handmade to order wedding dress. Catholic church wedding. Lavish reception. Don't know the cost as my parents footed the bill. A couple of beautiful children followed. Only to eventually end in divorce. 💔

The end.

Sophia! You had a very tall daughter - I think she was named Dorothy.

@SloopJohnB