Recluse behavior anyone? - Page 5

Mom2Dogs · ‎03-09-2010

I enjoy being home and since my husband I retired the first of the year I enjoy it even more. I have always liked being a home maker, I was never a mother (step mother) but I do enjoy putzing around in the yard....keeping my house clean and just enjoy knowing I don't have to rush off to work or constantly answer questions from customers.

I shopped with friends this week, Tuesday, I finally left the house to day, Saturday, to run to the grocery store. Staying in for days on end is OK with me.

I have a very small group of friends so having lots of events to attend or not attend does not cross my path very often.

My friend on the other hand has been retired for about 6 years and literally complains all the time about not having enough to do, she misses being around people. Everyone is different, I adapted really well to retirement, she is still trying to get used to it....we are all different.

haddon9 · ‎03-09-2010

@drizzellla I've flown out of plenty of airports but I think Philadelphia International is among the worst when it comes to TSA attitude.

I also have been stopped for extra checks but not to the extent that you have. A few years ago I signed up for TSA Pre-check. Since then I haven't been pulled aside for extra screening so I don't know if that makes a difference.

I get very anxious flying mostly because of the security experience. I've also worried about finding a space for my bag in the overhead bin. My dread has been alleviated somewhat since I have TSA precheck and also spend the extra for flying either business or economy plus. You are treated better and tend not to get separated from your luggage.

I have been traveling a bit more the last couple of years because I'm still healthy enough to do so and I like visiting new places. At some point in the not too distant future I will no longer be able to do so.

drizzellla · ‎03-14-2010

@haddon9 wrote:
@drizzellla I've flown out of plenty of airports but I think Philadelphia International is among the worst when it comes to TSA attitude.

I also have been stopped for extra checks but not to the extent that you have. A few years ago I signed up for TSA Pre-check. Since then I haven't been pulled aside for extra screening so I don't know if that makes a difference.

I get very anxious flying mostly because of the security experience. I've also worried about finding a space for my bag in the overhead bin. My dread has been alleviated somewhat since I have TSA precheck and also spend the extra for flying either business or economy plus. You are treated better and tend not to get separated from your luggage.

I have been traveling a bit more the last couple of years because I'm still healthy enough to do so and I like visiting new places. At some point in the not too distant future I will no longer be able to do so.

@haddon9 I have the same opinion. I think sometimes they get bored and go through "games" to not be as bored. And figured since I was older I was an easy target and not give them trouble.

I never got an TSA preheck because I would rather avoid flying.

And this from a daughter of a pilot. When I was younger I loved to fly. Didn't matter where or on a small plane, big plane, long trips across the United States or Atlantic Ocean or short trips over our house.

Last time I flew out of Philadelphia was to a wedding. My suitcase was "lost" had no change of clothes from Friday night to Sunday morning. Came back to hotel room Sunday morning after breakfast, there was my suitcase. Just in time to catch my flight home.

Landed in Philadelphia. Picked up my suitcase after waiting for everyone else to get theirs. It was so wet, the water was dripping off it. Must have sat in a puddle of water for awhile. Because it was so soaked.

Welcome home.

LuvSoCal · ‎07-18-2010

@sarahpanda I'm just the opposite...I'm more of an introvert but I enjoy getting together with other people. For example, because I've been retired for almost 11 yrs, I don't have as much social interaction as I did when I was younger and working. My few close friends all moved out of state after retiring.

Since the first of the year I have started attending monthly luncheons at my church and gotten involved with my all girls high school alumnae council which also meets monthly to discuss plans for various activities and events.

I love and value my "alone time" at home, but I don't want to shut myself off from others either.

Lucky Charm · ‎03-09-2010

You have to accept how you feel about your social situations. Go with what makes you feel comfortable. Don't worry about it!

I feel the opposite than you a lot of times. Many people that live here are only seasonal people, so winters can be long and sometimes boring. I enjoy gatherings, cookouts, card parties, just hanging out with neighbors.

One thing that I do know I'm guilty of is, I'd rather have something at my house, more than going elsewhere. That goes for family, friends and neighbors.

I don't mind going to their homes, but I like it to be here moreso.

I am not a fan of the phone call for a spur of the moment get together. I need time. And there's one particular good friend that does this and I let her call go to voicemail, usually.

I wouldn't do that with a sister, naturally.

haddon9 · ‎03-09-2010

@drizzellla What a nightmare! Traveling can be awful sometimes....sorry you went through that!

Pink123 · ‎07-10-2019

@SilleeMee wrote:
I was raised as a military brat where normal childhood socialization wasn't a good part of that. Us kids had some issues growing up. Mine is that I don't like being around people at all. I get anxiety attacks whenever I need to go where there is going to be a lot of people around. I've never been diagnosed but I would say that I have some degree of agoraphobia for sure. Military lifestyle is not a good thing for kids to grow up in. It's a documented problem-maker for kids.

@SilleeMee I agree for sure. I've never enjoyed large crowds at all and also have been diagnosed agoraphobic to a degree even in my 20's. You are not alone. Like a football stadium would drive me crazy and I would definitely not enjoy it at all or refuse to go.

But this is all fine. Some are loners and some not. I need peace at this point in my life and am very happy with this type of lifestyle. I love to read as well and have picked it up again. Yes, I do love fashion but I have everything I need so that's that.

I do like to have one partner but that is hard to find as the last one was go go go just do something. I prefer a cozy home and peace. Life has not been easy as for most of us.

Tinkrbl44 · ‎08-23-2010

@sarahpanda wrote:
WOW - JUST WOW to all the people who took the time to comment on my post. Thank you so much - now I don't feel like the ''odd one out'' !!

@sarahpanda

One other thing with being happy staying home is that most of us don't suffer fools and nonsense gladly anymore. We don't have to.

I had to be outgoing during my working years, in sales and seminars. Marketing and promotion can take a lot out of you.

Glad I don't have to do that anymore.

I also think we "budget" our time and energy differently after retirement.

Tinkrbl44 · ‎08-23-2010

@drizzellla wrote:
When I was younger I would "up and go". Went on trips all over the United States, Mexico and England. Never thought twice. If the mood hit, I would go.

Now is a completely different story. Flying is an absolute pain. It never fails, every flight in the last 10 or so years - I have had to be pulled aside for enhanced checks. My hands have been swabbed, I have had full body Xrays, had to remove my clothing down to my camisole (out in the open where you removed your shoes) and taken to a room of 6 people going through my carry on luggage.

We now have to factor in extra time to check in, before a flight because it is a given I will be checked. One time a Supervisor was called before they would release me. I swear the Supervisor took over half an hour before showing up. We thought we would miss our flight.

My husband was talking about taking a cruise. I dread the thought of what I will encounter.

I would rather stay home and no one bothering me, except immediate family and 2 best friends.

@drizzellla

I know that many people say they want to travel after they retire, but I'm glad I wasn't one of them.

IMO, I was VERY fortunate to do all my international travelling before 9/11.

I have one more bucket list trip I plan to take .... a cruise from California to Alaska during the summer months. It is a beautiful trip ... and I don't need a passport!

september · ‎03-09-2010

I tend to be reclusive when I'm in a situation where I feel I need to have personal space from others who might be sick. I was in such a situation earlier today, when visiting a former neighbor in her assisted living facility. The other person I was with, got up close and personal to many of the residents. Not me! A few residents were coughing and blowing their noses.

I no longer care to be polite or social when my health is at stake.