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[Venezia]

@stevieb- You nailed it with your response to the OP's "update".  And now the blase "end of discussion" comment from her upthread.

Seems all she wanted was for everyone to agree that he should not go anywhere without her.  This is either someone very young and immature or someone who's very controlling.  Neither is a good omen for a successful marriage.

Or...it could just be someone who likes to start a fire and then dance off laughing.  IMO, not worth responding to anything further that she posts.

[missy1]

It's interesting to read on here, that  many posters couldn't go without your husband/so. Is this more of a generational thing? Do you do anything separately? (other than work)

[sunshine45]

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@missy1 wrote:

It's interesting to read on here, that  many posters couldn't go without your husband/so. Is this more of a generational thing? Do you do anything separately? (other than work)

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not sure that it was "many" @missy1, but maybe about half and half split. i found it to be a bit strange also. i love doing things with my s/o, but i also love doing things on my own or with friends. it isnt a requirement in my life that we must do every single thing together. even my parents were not like that.

[stevieb]

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@occasionalrain wrote:

It seems the OP is hurt to realize she is not as important to him as he is to her. Apparently he doesn't feel the Caribbean is their special place nor is he disappointed that she can't go. He could have least given the impression of being reluctant to go without her.

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Almost all interpretations without knowing the two of them would be a stretch, but I don't think we can at all surmise that she isn't as important to him as he is to her... From the sounds of it, it isn't that he's so important, it's that the trip is the important part and the fact that it doesn't include her... She also never said the Caribbean is 'their' special place, rather it appears it's 'her' special place and one that she seems to think he should only share with her... Were the tables turned, I'm betting she'd make the trip... As for whether he's disappointed she can't go, again we don't know, but if he isn't disappointed, maybe there's a reason why... Geesh, married or not, there are time when people want to do things on their own... They should... It's more healthy...

[Group 5 minus 1]

I have a relative that did just that. SHe did not like to travel and he was in a Glee Club type org. and had a trip sch. to Germany.

I have encouraged my DH to visit friends but he wants to stay home. I do not like to travel.

[MarieIG]

No

[patbz]

About 5 years ago my friend (a travel agent) asked me to be her roommate on an amazing and cheap itinerary to China.  I had been many years before but DH had never been.  He encouraged me to go, I said no (but introduced my TA to another friend who accompanied her).  Two years ago I found almost identical itinerary at a super cheap price so DH and I went to China together (it was a great trip!).

[SeaMaiden]

I would not go....but my husband would probably want to go as he  is more social than I am.  We might argue about that......

[Mom2Dogs]

I have always wanted to go to Hawaii....we will never make it there so if DH was asked to go and I was not included yes,  I would be hurt BUT if he were asked to go on a trip and I was not included, I'd say go.....I would not feel slighted, we are married but not joined at the hip or a package deal....and I certainly would not be mad beause I was home keeping house, cooking, working, etc...that is just immature.

[Karie2022]

I don’t know, I guess I’m seeing it a bit different...he’s going to a place that op adores and it’s her favorite place in the whole world, a place they’ve shared together many times and activities they love to do together, and not only is she not invited, but he’s going with men he’s not even close to except for the occasional chit chat on Facebook....strange I think...like op said, if he was going to a hunting retreat, or somewhere she could care less about, she’d be fine with that...this is a special place for her, and them as a couple, I totally get it, and I would be hurt as well..has nothing to do with being joined at the hip.. again just my opinion😀