Please help me solve an argument with DH - Page 10

jubilant · ‎06-10-2010

This one is easy for me. We don't like traveling with friends so neither of us would like it. If we got the chance to go to a favorite "longed for" place for vacation we would want to make the most of it and not have anyone else calling the shots.

With that said....if my spouse did enjoy traveling with friends and had his heart set on it...... like a hunting or golfing trip.... I would have no problem with that.

speedy girl · ‎06-03-2018

I think life is so short and we are not promised tomorrow so I would go and have fun. I'm sure your spouse would be happy for you.

silkyk · ‎03-03-2011

We go together

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sunshine45 · ‎03-09-2010

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NYC Susan · ‎03-13-2010

@sunshine45 wrote:

That's right.

And a partnership is also two people who trust each other and support each other.

Carmie · ‎10-25-2010

My DH travels with the guys fishing a few times a year. I have also traveled with friends or my sisters without him.

I would not be a happy camper if I was made to feel guilty for traveling without him and I would feel awful and guilty if I wanted him to stay home because I couldn't go with him.

I think it is wonderful to get away from each other for a short while. I just don't get why some people get all worked up over separate vacations once in a while.

We do travel together a lot too. We have been married over 45 years and have been traveling occasionally separate from each other since the beginning.

Send him off to the Caribbean and plan a girls vacation with friends or your sisters at a future date.

GiantsLover · ‎08-28-2018

I believe people should take every opportunity when presented provided it is fairly safe, because we never know when our number is up, and life is too short to sit around waiting for an opportunity to present itself.

Some of the best times I had was accepting invitaitons at the spur of the moment.

When at home or while travelling I try my best to please everyone, but if I travel solo I always please myself.

The best times I have had was when I would book my own travel itinerary.

I love traveling alone as I get to do just as I please...Eat where and when I want, rest when I want, shop when and where I want, enjoy the beach and ocean or mountains when and where I want.

I work hard and play hard, and enjoy life as often and as best as I can.

Also a significant other may not wish to travel where you wish to go, so in that case I would suggest each person make their own travel plans, with no hard feelings,

People may be involved in some sort of relationship, legal or otherwise, and everyone has different needs and desires.

They should try and share them if it is at all possible and advantageous, but if that is not possible then they should do what makes them happy as an individual, and that includes travel plans and traveling solo.

Father Time stands still for no one, so we should make the most of the time we have.

Drythe · ‎07-09-2011

My DH and I have traveled with others many, many times, for a variety of reasons. Life does not always work that with the exact timing we want, and we do not all like the same things.

With only the first round of information my answer is - My DH and I are both rational, capable, adults, we do not "let" one another do things. I can NOT imagine either of us being in such a relationship.

I'd be thrilled if he got to go on a trip he was excited about whether I went or not, and vice versa.

The added bits of persuasive information do not alter my answer one whit.

"Animals are not my whole world, but they have made my world whole" ~ Roger Caras

PamelaSue72 · ‎09-22-2011

My DH gets more vacation time than I do. Why should he stay home if I can't go some place? That doesn't make any sense.

He's leaving this week for a long weekend in Florida. I couldn't get vacation and I don't fly. I told him to go and have a great time. I'll stay home, go to work, and take care of things here. It's not a problem for me. (And if I could get vacation, I wouldn't pick Florida as a vacation spot. But he enjoys it and he can go. It works.)

He's happy about getting away for a long weekend. I'm happy about having the house to myself for a long weekend.

After we retire, things may be different. But for now? Win-Win