Please Offer Help-Stalker - Page 2

Colinka · ‎10-15-2011

@jlkz wrote:
@HouseMouse

If you have ever watched programs such as Forensic Files or other crime dramas, then you know their outcomes.

You are in the same precarious position: it may be a matter of time. I hope it doesn't come to that....you need to quickly act on the advice from several posters:

1. Get a restraining order. ( it starts the legal process );

2. Call police and advise them of the order.

3. Put 911 on speed dial.

4. Get all locks changed. Add them to windows.

5. Change your phone (s) numbers, preferably unlisted. Restrict severely the number of folks who get the new numbers.

6. Close existing email accounts. Create a new one that is only used for necessary purposes....not social media stuff.

7. Notify folks at work what is occurring.

8. Put yourself in your own Witness Protection program: MOVE.

I hope you move forward on these steps quickly and stay safe.

I agree: A stalker may try to accost you at work, and your supervisor should be able to help. You owe it to your co-workers to keep them safe. There have been lots of incidents of workplace violence that could affect your office. Also, let your neighbors know.! They can help in an emergency and contact authorities if they see something suspicious.

dal23 · ‎03-06-2012

@I am still oxox wrote:
Get an unlisted number and call the police they should be able to advise you on what to do and what not to do

Absolutely. Call or stop by the police station and just ask to speak to an officer. You can absolutely ask them for advice.

kitcat51 · ‎09-15-2016

I think you know what needs to be done already. I know it's scary but you must go to the police today, file a report & get a restraining order. If he tries to contact you in any way after that then report it right away....no mixed messages, showing any understanding or kindness to him because he will use that against you. Make your family & friends aware of the situation & don't be embarrassed to ask for help. Think about taking a self defense course & contact a group that deals with abuse. Take a deep breath & go now....Blessing to you.

YorkieonmyPillow · ‎01-13-2013

Also, you need to end your relationship with him - whatever it is - before you get a restraining order on him.

You have been communicating with him, texting, and so forth - you need to tell him that you don't want to have any sort of relationship/friendship, anything anymore.

You can't communicate with a person like this and then turn around and get a RO on them. They'll go apes**t for sure then.

You have not made yourself clear to him. He needs to understand before you involve the police, IMHO.

All else applies, get a firearm and learn how to use it.

wishmoon · ‎08-14-2013

He's controlling you, he has you where he wants you. Contact police.

Goodie2shoes · ‎04-30-2012

Just like everyone else has already stated, you need to contact the police and also tell them everything you stated in your post. Don't hesitate.

Kitlynn · ‎03-09-2010

Go to the police station and talk to an officer in person. Tell him exactly what has been going on don't even hesitate. Don't let this guy and his friends intimidate you. Start writing down every time he shows up and calls. You need to have a record of what is going on. It is illegal to harass someone and stalking is also illegal. Don't be afraid the police are there for a reason. This kind of thing goes on all the time and people don't report it then it turns into something a lot more serious and it is to late. After you go to the police station and talk to an officer then call every time he shows up or calls. Then they will have a record also.

Then they can do something about him and they will. Now I am not being rude or hateful by saying this but the bottom line is if you don't report this and take action then it is your own fault if something happens because you didn't step up to protect yourself. You can't get help if you don't ask the authorites to help you in this type of situation.

LizzieInSRQ · ‎12-27-2010

Yes, get police involved and get advise from them and to restate the obvious and most important thing YOU are in control of is yourself: you must 100% never communicate EVER again.

The opposite of love is not hate, it is indifference. Do not feed the beast what it craves.

LoriLori · ‎03-12-2010

@HouseMouse, there is some very good advice in this thread. You MUST contact the police. It won't help to move, he will likely follow you. He is bent on terrorizing you and making you "pay" in his sick, twisted mind. I'm so sorry.

You must keep a log of every single call and find out if it is legal in your state to tape the calls without his knowledge. Save the texts to a cloud. Do these things but they won't be helpful until you make contact with police. Once you have, if you see his car outside call police immediately.

Hopefully where you live you can get a victim advocate. There are on-line support groups as well -- if you're sure he hasn't hacked your computer. There are organizations to help you, I hope you live in a big enough city that they have these resources.

Be well and bless you, I hope you get all the help you need and that you can straddle the line between being frightened and functional -- it is so hard.