Among Friends

[BalletBabe]

@ROMARY  Oh I agree.  He is really a weirdo.  Him and my hubby were friends when my hubby was healthy.   One night  (the Thursday before my hubby passed,) he fell out of bed and I could not get him up.  I called Hospice and they said they would send someone out.  It was 4 am.   I waited and waited and he was on the floor on his knees with his face in the carpet.  I kept trying to turn his head because I was afraid he was going to suffocate in the carpet and he was screaming at me to leave him alone.   

Hospice took way too long so I called this guy as he said call day or night if you need anything.  So he came right over and picked him right up.   He is a big guy and hubby was small and I tried to lift him but I could not budge him an inch.  In the meantime Hospice showed up and asked him if he wanted to go to the hospital and he said NO.

That was the start of it. That was Friday morning and hubby died Sunday morning. He didn't knock he pounded on my door.   It was awful as I had so much to do with phone calls and arrangements for funeral.  My son was in Nevada (he is in Navy)  I had no one to help me for a week till he got here.   If I ignored the door , he would come back in a few hours.  It was a nightmare.  Glad it is over!  

[LizzieInSRQ]

What I do not u understand is the OP returned to the thread saying she'd have to think about the responses and figure out what to do. 70 responses about 100% saying the same thing and one STILL needs to figure out what to do? Also what kind of guy has friends who would retaliate with violence for protecting yourself. I think that is dramatic. If that is the case..,add them to the RO and think about what kind of people you hang out with in the 

[YorkieonmyPillow]

I don't know if it was real or not but best to err on the side of caution in cases like this...

[BeccaLou]

Save your money and just tell him that you have a restraing order.I had a family member that is a alcoholic and he would call and threaten me , harm to my little kids and my house. I called the police and made a police report, and was told to save my time missing work, and the money, and just tell him that a police report was made which you would have done and that you have a protective order put in place. But when you place the call to the police tell them to post it as a harassment, charge ,also stalking, and a removal from premises. If that doesn't do it you may try to find a security guard. My prayers are with, and hang in there . I would kick his rear If I could. Also you may want to contact the women's domestic violence bureau and ask them what to do. But in my case I called the family member and told him this is what is going to happen if you don't stop. But it stopped him in his tracks.

[dex]

@apple1964 I think that the post is real and the woman came here to see what others would do in her situation.I believe she really is afraid so ,she hesitates doing what she should be doing.I think the guy is really controlling and she doesn't have the strength to take him on.I bet he is not the kind of guy to pick a fight with on your own and he could easily escalate if he gets angry.I had a friend that I had to hide from her bf whom she was very afraid all of the time.She eventually ran off and didn't tell any of us where she went for fear that he would find out.I think it is so dangerous when it is happening to you and you have to wait for them to do something arrest worthy before any jail time is serve.

[ROMARY]

No matter how completely 'true' a personal thread is, there are always some posters here who have experienced something similar, no matter the subject matter.   Btw, I totally believe the O/P and also others who have had similar experiences.   So, 'all in all', this thread might be interesting and beneficial to others (myself included).   (Said in a nice, not confrontational way.)  

[dex]

@ROMARY I agree that you can never have too much information about any potential dangers.Its what you don't know that can kill you.

[ROMARY]

And sometimes it goes from bad to worse.  No matter what the degree of this type of behavior.  No matter how petty or 'ridiculous' in the beginning (stealing small and also significant items without any type of guilt (one track mind), and then 'letting you know' what they did by displaying the stolen items in their home) (control)  to no matter how criminal/dangerous/etc.  The older they become, the worse it becomes.  Just saying.........  p.s.  I was so very informed and grateful when they mentioned the symptoms of dementia/alzheimers on one of those doctor shows a few months or so ago.  I'm only guessing that this type of dementia can begin earlier in life?  Maybe in their fifties/sixties and then progressively become worse as time goes by.  That, or maybe it's just a 'control' issue, or a 'just plain mean' issue.   Who knows. 

[NickNack]

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@I am still oxox wrote:

I wonder if the OP will revisit the thread or take any of the advice or if this is even real, I have grown so sceptical of threads like this. 

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I left a similar post... I doubt she will back or this thread is real? .. I have read many threads like this and from posters with very little posts.  Another hit and run poster.

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@apple1964  She has been back.  Post 66 yesterday.

[Cakers3]

Being stalked is a horrendous experience.  I agree that the info here can be helpful to somebody unwilling to discuss their problem here.  Many women (mostly) often do not know where to turn.

I find it rude to question the OP about such a serious issue.  Somewhere somebody just might be helped by this thread, even if it is not the OP.

And just to add to another comment:  I wouldn't just tell the stalker that you have a restraining order.  He could very well push the limit testing it out.  He has to be served.