Ok, so I was chillin' in the freezing car literally last night, while dh went inside for a few items. A couple of Walmart employees came out to have a smoke break near our car, and I couldn't help but overhear this angry perplexed guy's tale of woe to his co-worker:
"...so when I told her that I didn't want to talk about our relationship & that I was seeing another girl, she told me to pack my bags & get out by Monday, dude! I told her it was too soon to talk about our relationship, because my divorce isn't even final yet--how unreasonable is THAT?! I didn't get any credit for being honest with her for asking another girl out on a date, & she said I couldn't stay with her anymore. This divorce is wiping out my wallet, dude--she's a cold one, making me get out now!"
I was looking around for the Candid Cameras. Wow. Really? He sounded so disgusted with this 'unreasonable' girlfriend.
The only thing he is good for is helping people feel better if they are single & lonely, because it would be far worse to be with someone like That. I feel so badly for women who have such low self esteem that they would put up with someone like that in order to fool themselves that they are being cherished, when in reality they are just being used. I'm glad this gf saw the light & kicked his sorry behind out!
If you are single & lonely, stay strong & know that there are worse things than being single. I count my blessings for finding my dh, but I was lonely for a lot of years before that ever happened, & I remember how awful that loneliness felt. I'm glad I didn't settle for a loser like this guy, and held out for one worth the hassle.
I thought this message might be a good one right around Valentine's Day, what with all the painful arrows that point towards our love life (or lack of one), which is often hurtful for far too many people. I would rather see a holiday where we nuture ourselves & appreciate our uniqueness, rather than shine a glaring light that seems to say, "YOU ARE ALONE, LOSER! WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU?" That's ridiculous. We don't come into this world attached to a significant other, and we won't exit this world attached, either. We need to find wholeness within ourselves, & not cause ourselves to only feel worthy if someone else validates us first. Validate yourselves first & foremost, & the rest is gravy. If you are painfully alone in life, all the more reason to be extra good to yourself, & find validation for your unique worthiness in this world! Who else can better appreciate your unique gifts that you have on offer, than yourself? Just because other people haven't caught on yet, doesn't mean your gifts aren't priceless.
Celebrate them!
There are all kinds of loneliness in this world. Some are caused by never finding our 'true love,' and some are caused by losing our 'true love.' Both are terribly painful in their own ways.
Years ago, after I lost someone that I didn't want to continue living in this life without, I read this quote & contemplated it every day for over a year until I finally 'got it':
"When you are joyous, look deep into your heart and you shall find it is only that which has given you sorrow that is giving you joy. When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight." - Khalil Gibran
So...that is what I came away with, after sitting in a freezing cold Walmart parking lot last night. I hope someone finds it useful.
☼SerenityNow!☼
"Be as a bird perched on a frail branch that she feels bending beneath her; still she sings away all the same, knowing she has wings." ~Victor Hugo
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