Among Friends

[Ms X]

My niece got married and didn't invite any of us.  It was a destination wedding paid for by her parents with what my mother said would be many of the groom's family and almost none of hers.  I bought her a nice floral chintz tea set but ended up keeping it for myself.  I don't regret it.  She held a "fundraiser" for herself under the guise of a party for all those not special enough to invite a couple of months later, but I skipped it.  Weddings nowadays are too often exercises in greed.

[KarenQVC]

I am so over the Bridezilla complex.  Have a simple wedding at home and invite everyone.  Then go on that wonderul honeymoon.  These Bridezillas just go on to have infinite baby showers, etc., etc.  I try not to give in to the blackmail.

[Ms X]

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@KarenQVC wrote:

I am so over the Bridezilla complex.  Have a simple wedding at home and invite everyone.  Then go on that wonderul honeymoon.  These Bridezillas just go on to have infinite baby showers, etc., etc.  I try not to give in to the blackmail.

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ITA!  These Bridezillas are so tacky, but they are unable to see it.  I found the "fundraiser" two months later so insulting and in such bad taste.  It seemed to me just a way to get all the presents you missed by having an uber expensive week-long destination wedding for a select few.  At least the invitation didn't ask for "cash" as gifts.  I got that one once.  I can't imagine where people get the nerve.

I always wanted a tea set like that but never got one for myself.  When I use it I think how much more I deserve it than her. 

[embgm]

Four years ago my close friends son was married and due to expenses the invited guests needed to be limited so I was not invited. This year I am invited to her other sons wedding. My not being invited to the first wedding had no bearing on our friendship at all. My son is getting married and is having a small intimate wedding with family only and  a few of his and the bride's friends in a few weeks. My close friends completely understand this was the wedding couples wishes and have no problems with it.  If you are a true friend you will understand.  

[ROMARY]

Could be that close family members were invited on both sides.  Sometimes, if one invites one 'friend', then the other side isn't too happy because none of their friends were invited. 

[Hoovermom]

Something similar happened to us.  A close friend (20+ years of vacations together) of ours daughter got married.  I was invited to her bridal tea a couple of weeks before wedding.  When the invitation arrived, I knew that we had been left off the wedding invitation (time frame for mailing invites).   Since we had friends in our circle, we were told about the wedding arrangements. .  My feelings were very hurt, and I did not attend her tea.  I am a very generous person, and I chose not to send a gift.  Still stings to this day, and no, we do not socialize anymore.  Sad......

[Big Sister]

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@Momofdogs wrote:

Should I be upset if a close friend I've known for over 30 yrs didn't invite me to her sons wedding ?

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@Momofdogs, No, don't be upset, please.  The older I get I realize that some things are just not worth getting angry over.  I just tell myself,

"get over it; it is what it is."

[Sooner]

So kids should be "forced" to invite all of mom's friends to their wedding?  Hmmm.  I never realized that.  I didn't realize it was the mothers' event.  I thought it was the couple's deal.  See how out of touch I am?  LOL!!!  

[alliswell]

Let Go . . . Let God.

[ChynnaBlue]

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@Momofdogs wrote:

Should I be upset if a close friend I've known for over 30 yrs didn't invite me to her sons wedding ?

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No. It's her son's wedding and he and his bride get to decide who to invite. If she didn't invite you to her own wedding, that would be different.