Not Invited

Momofdogs · ‎02-22-2015

Should I be upset if a close friend I've known for over 30 yrs didn't invite me to her sons wedding ?

CalMom · ‎04-30-2013

No because sometimes there are limits due to costs. However, your friend should have discussed this with you.

Maybe your friend is angry at you. People can be bizarre. Move on and make new friends, better friends. An older friend isn't always better. Times change and so can you.

CalMom · ‎04-30-2013

I have a question for you, how to you start a new thread? I have before but can't seem to find it anymore. I'm lost. Thanks in advance.

PS Anyone can answer.

KarenQVC · ‎05-13-2010

Click on the section you want like Among Friends. Then New Message.

KarenQVC · ‎05-13-2010

OP--I would just forget about it. Brides are SO uppity these days you can never know what happened.

ECBG · ‎01-08-2011

I had something very close to what you're experiencing. I even found the tiera for the girl's wedding and I wasn't invited.

I'm so sorry. Some people have the manners of a brick!

OnlyShopsOnline · ‎03-09-2010

I don't think you should be upset....but that's my opinion. You feel the way you do. When my daughter got married, it was a small wedding. She and our SIL decided on the final guest list.

We did have the freedom to invite a few people. But, I only invited several of our friends that she knew while she was growing up. I knew they were trying to keep the size of the guest list down and didn't see the need to invite anyone with whom she didn't have a close relationship.

There is a couple, that we have had an on/off friendship with for 30+ years, but we don't see them very often. I didn't invite them. Frankly, I didn't give it much thought because they had been invited to other things over the years, and always complained that they didn't want to make the one hour drive. I haven't heard from them since. My guess is that they were offended that we didn't invite them.

Not inviting them wasn't intended to be an insult. It was just the decision that was made at the time.

"I've been here since October 2006. Wow!"

Sooner · ‎03-10-2010

@Momofdogs wrote:
Should I be upset if a close friend I've known for over 30 yrs didn't invite me to her sons wedding ?

It isn't your friend's wedding. It is her son and his bride's wedding. I'm sure they will want to invite friends of theirs and their close family members, and it's expensive these days. I wouldn't think a thing about it or even really expect to be invited unless you were VERY close to the two getting married--friends of THEIRS.

I didn't invite my mom's friends that I wasn't close to to our wedding.

sfnative · ‎03-10-2010

@Momofdogs

As others have mentioned, it may be due to cost, deciding to have a small wedding and/or wishing to have their friends at the wedding vice a friend or two of the son's mother.

We had a huge wedding and so were able to invite many, including some friends of my mother. However, that's not always the case.

If I were you, I'd purchase a nice card and mail it to the new bride and groom, Mr. and Mrs. _______, via your friend's address.

Lovingq · ‎03-09-2010

@Momofdogs wrote:
Should I be upset if a close friend I've known for over 30 yrs didn't invite me to her sons wedding ?

If I was dissed by a close friend of 30 years I'd forego a present as well as a gift for their baby when they have one. If you were not important enough in their eyes to attend their wedding, then they don't need your money or your thoughtfulness in choosing a gift for them. And, sadly they will remember that you didn't get them a gift but not that you were not invited to their wedding party....that's how that works these days.