No one to talk too. - Page 2

GingerHead · ‎03-10-2010

I'm so sorry you are going through this. Honestly from your post it sounds hopeless, I'm sorry to say but sometimes we need a wake-up call.

He sounds very selfish and inconsiderate, the fact that he (a married man) has always been on the look out and scouting is not right. You need to figure out your worth, you are worth being truly loved and respected. Not just waiting around and hoping he'll choose you, this may sound corny and cliche, but you need to choose you and until you do I think you'll be insecure and unhappy.

You are worthy and you deserve to be treated with respect, demand it, you're the only one who can....and you can!

I wish you well, sending hugs.

"We can judge the heart of a man by his treatment of animals" -Immanuel Kant

"Once you have had a wonderful Dog, a life without one, is a life diminished"-Dean Koontz

Nana2158 · ‎06-24-2024

ASAP Attorney, Don't trust him! One of my favorite sayings: "When someone shows you who they really are believe them."

Sage04 · ‎07-10-2011

But, is she interested in him? Some men think that because a woman talks to him, she's interested.

Wouldn't be surprise if she is married and no way is interested in this man.

pdlinda · ‎10-23-2011

@Sage04 IMO, if it isn't that particular woman who is capturing his attention at the moment, it probably will be another...the fact that he SHARED WITH HER HIS INEREST IN ANOTHER WOMAN was a signal that he is ready to move beyond the marriage in more active ways.

If I were her, I'd get an accurate financial shapshot of their assets and then see an atty to make sure she has the financial means she will need to go it alone.

Carmie · ‎10-25-2010

Your husband sounds creepy. Men that scout women are usually thought of as weird dirty old men.

I'll bet his coworker thinks he is creepy too and wishes he would behave. If he is inappropriate in any way, he can be fired. Even a simple compliment could be taken as sexual harassment.

When I worked, I saw two men get fired. One for whistling at a young lady and another who held a top position for making "sweet talk" and verbal advances on a woman uninvited.

You need to decide if you can live with him. If so, go for therapy. If not, talk to an attorney. Better yet, just call an attorney.

Just talking to an attorney might just be the wake up call he needs to bring him back to reality. As long as you are willing to put up with his behavior, it will continue.

nikkisaunt1 · ‎05-11-2011

it sounds more like he loves himself not you. Go to an attorney but don't tell him. Get financial and legal advice so you can decide what makes the best sense for you. Start counseling for yourself. But no matter what, start building a life for yourself. Join some groups. There are probably groups you can join in your town, or through church. Start putting away monies for yourself. Be prepared and strong. That way, no matter what happens, you can be in the best place possible.

HLP · ‎04-02-2015

@Sage04 wrote:
But, is she interested in him? Some men think that because a woman talks to him, she's interested.

Wouldn't be surprise if she is married and no way is interested in this man.

Your married to a jerk, get rid of him. I wouldn't put up with "he's interested " for a minute. who does he think he is? throw the bum out and make him keep you. see a lawyer now and lose this loser. The other Lady probably doesnt care one minute about Romeo.What an A??. Your more important than you think you are, just remember. that.!!!

Parischic · ‎12-06-2022

@Lostandscared
I was in your situation, except I was married 20 years and had 2 children 14 and 7, I also stayed at home. She was my husband's admins assistant. We tried counseling together, separtely, he had the affair so we separated but still lived together. This went on for 4 years. Long story short, he had a really good attorney and even in California I lost just about everything! Because my education was highschool level my job skills are limited. I also got really sick and can't work right now so I'm on disability. I do get long term alimony, however if I had a crystal ball and knew what I know now, I would of done things a lot differently.

Queen of shop · ‎12-13-2020

@Lostandscared I would suggest that you get your ducks in order and cut him loose. See an attorney. The kind of menatl torture that he is putting you through is not worth it. YOU have value.

Being in your 60's is not old. You have plenty more years of life left. So live it.

I wish you the best.

AuntG · ‎03-09-2010

Your anxiety is understandable, BUT I think his co-worker may find his attention creepy. I assume she knows he is married. It's possible the HR department will get involved if she files a complaint about his behavior. You two need to get some counseling, because things are off kilter.