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Registered: ‎03-09-2010

@Sookie Says, thank you for your kind words.  I appreciate it.  I don't worry about what other people think for the most part, I just like to feel good and look good for me.  Some days I get close, others, well, we can't win em all!

~~Keep calm and hug your pets~~
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I think there certainly those of us like me who were raised a certain way that never did pay much attention to compliments, nor got many growing up.  I was raised by a mother who demanded we look good before going out and that we wear nice clothes.  She was/is a fashionable person.  More than I ever way.  If it's a trend, I'd never consider buying one.

 

BUT, she was a great believer in not being proud of ones self too.  So she never dished out compliments to me and was never one to put much stock in them herself.  While she and I would be dressed to the nines, she emphasized that it was simply what respectable people did. It was not to glorify us, it was to keep people from thinking we were not upright citizens. 

 

So if someone ever said to me "You look pretty" or "I love those shoes" it simply went in one ear and out the other.  It is one way of looking at life.  I'm   betting there are a few others here raised that way too.  

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Registered: ‎04-22-2010

I love giving compliments when I am out in public.  If you have a beautiful shirt, etc, I will compliment.  It is just a kind thing to do!  I even compliment men I know, if they look good.

 

My mother at times would belittle me by saying " Why are you fixing your hair, no one will notice you".  So I now go out of the way, to compliment.  It actually makes me feel good by telling someone that they look good.

 

This world has become an ugly place to live and at times you need to make it better by doing good deeds.

 

 

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Receive compliments on DS.  Excellent attorney, husband, father. That's all I need. 

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@151949@You are so right.I moved to a new neighborhood and met a woman who I really enjoyed but never thought of as beautiful.She told me that she was getting back surgery for pain relief.After the surgery she looked like a different person.Her face was glowing and beautiful and she was so calm.I never before realized she was in that much pain or that pain could change you so drastically.

I hope that you will soon get back to great health,sell your house quickly and be ready to resume all the things that you enjoy.

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All things considered, a woman in her 20's will usually get more compliments than a woman in her 60's.   

 

Personally, I've never cared what other people think and have never been dependent on the compliments of friends or strangers.  

 

I recall that, on another thread, there was a conversation about who you dress for and someone said women dress for other women.  (???)    I honestly thought that was the DUMBEST thing I've ever heard!   Couldn't relate ... at all.   

 

I thought that females stopped doing that by the end of high school .... at the latest.    I guess not.

 

 

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Registered: ‎10-21-2010

I am the exact opposite. I would rather NOT receive compliments.  I often times find myself wondering why...trying to be nice, trying to make conversation - etc?  I don't dress/wear anything to do anything but please myself. I get a ton of compliments often on my nails - and I always am polite and say "thank you.." but I would not start complimenting a complete stranger that I like their hair, nails, purse, clothing etc..

 

As long as we like what we have on, we are secure enough in ourself that we do not need outside approval. Just the way I feel. My daughter has total opposite taste than I do..and I tell her all the time..as long as YOU like it...that is all that matters - same way for me..as long as I like it - I am not concerned.

 

I put a lot of effort and thought into my outfit, even on a jean day, with accessories - if it all works for me than I am good. I am not looking for approval.

 

Do not get upset if others do not compliment you. I would rather they do not - as like i said - I always wonder...why? Sure nice people out there but how many would go out of their way to compliment somebody on their top, shoes, rings, and yes nails.

 

You like what you are wearing, you feel good - that is the key point.

 

You feel good, you like your clothing - you nailed the intention!

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At my age (65, but look older), I am invisible.

 

Every now & then a friend will compliment me or a stranger will remark on a piece of jewelry or shoes but otherwise I'm ignored.

 

At first it was a little unnerving but for the most part now, I don't mind being invisible.   

 

I've also never needed to hear compliments, they are very nice to hear but I can take it or leave it.

 

I understand where you are coming from and I can feel your pain.   Since you are always complimenting others, why aren't you getting compliments in return?  You seem to be such a sweet giving person who is outgoing.

 

@HouseMouse

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Registered: ‎06-24-2010

My daughter mentioned that whenever she goes through a check out line, that she will try to give the cashier a compliment each time, whether it be her hair, her jewelry or something else that catches her eye.  I try to remember that and do the same.  

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@Imaoldhippiewrote:

Maybe you need new friends?!   It could possibly be jealousy?  You look great and maybe they think you look better than them, so no compliments.  Dress for you and you know you look good, so hold your head up and out class them all.


My thoughts exactly!

I have a friend, who is very beautful, sometimes she gets very insecure, as people don't compliment her much either. I have told her many times that I think its because she is surrounded by a lot of jealous insecure women.

Just my thoughts.