Need Some Guidance - Page 9

Tinkrbl44 · ‎08-23-2010

@lOVETOSHOP wrote:
The way I see it, if you have to work this hard to try and figure out the who, what, when, where and whys of how this relationship is developing, that's not a good sign!

He sounds totally absorbed with himself...as an example, he can send what you described as a "cryptic" text, yet when you don't answer his texts fast enough, he gets miffed. This sounds like the actions of an immature, self-absorbed, attention seeker.
If he was meant for you, you wouldn't have to work so hard at trying to figure him out.
I agree with others who have said you should tell him you are cutting off all contact with him until he's divorced. And then, even after he's divorced, if you wish to pursue any kind of relationship with him, I would PROCEED WITH CAUTION!

Good luck to you, you sound like a nice lady with real feelings. Don't let him take advantage of that!

@lOVETOSHOP @Ladygray

At first, I thought this man was using the OP as a "bridge" .... someone to distract him while going through the divorce. Having read the other comments, I now believe he is a serial cheater. (I'm assuming the OP is single .... maybe she is also married looking for FWB?)

This is NOT the beginning of a healthy, committed relationship. I'm betting that not only does he NOT have a separate residence, but that he has not told anyone (even his closest male friends) that he "likes" someone, and has no intention of divorcing.

OP, you sound like a junior high school girl .... "Oh! He smiled at me, what does that mean? Do you think he likes me? blah blah blah ... "

I suggest you stand back, refuse to be played any more, and get on with your life. You are a grown woman who is wasting your time, and you can't get this time back IF you're actually looking for real love. You will not find it with this sleeze bag.

Plaid Pants2 · ‎03-14-2015

I think that the o/p isn't the only one who's been played.

silkyk · ‎03-03-2011

I think the saying goes "He's just not that into you".

ROMARY · ‎04-28-2010

Could it be that one of his college kids (or separated wife) took his phone and sent you the photo? Since you haven't heard from him, I'd consider him more of a friend than a possible relationship person. I'd stop communicating with him and move on. Find another 'friend' who doesn't have any encumbrances. Underline 'any'.

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ROMARY · ‎04-28-2010

Plaid Pants: I just had a 'lightbulb' moment.............

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Big Sister · ‎05-15-2010

Sounds like you are having doubts. My motto has always been: When In Doubt, Don't!

ROMARY · ‎04-28-2010

Who knows, maybe he's with someone other than his separated wife and/or adult kids. ........... Looking back, I've seen a lot of 'rebound' relationships after a spouse's (wife's) death or divorce. All were just a rebound and those men ended up marrying someone entirely different about two years later. With the exception of one who married his ill wife's live-in, much younger caregiver. We ran across him and he ended up very, very happy (in fact, very energetically happy) and with a new child together.

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