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[CherryHugs]

I would ignore him too.  My ex-husband  was the stalker type of person and had moved out of state but moved back two years ago.  He died recently and I feel safer now.

[151949]

It sounds to me like the OP still has feelings for this man. 

[Imaoldhippie]

IMO he was trying to do the right thing.  He could have just thrown them away.  I think you are making a mountain out of a mole hill.  Let him know you dont want them.  He is moving after all and does not appear to be "after" you.

[beckyb1012]

If you were not thinking about the photos yesterday then you do not need them in your life today.  Simple and sweet and so is the life you made without him.

[LTT1]

@emmysmom

I’d have painful feelings, too. You have these resolved in your own mind. Don’t let them be a real-play.

Would your sons take these? Their children might like to see. If you can contact a son and ask, do that.

Or set up a PO BOX and have them sent there...if possible do this thru sons. 

How dare are this man?  Not safe.

[NicksmomESQ]

@emmysmom   My heart is breaking for you.This man caused you so much pain.Don’t go there again.I think he feels guilty in his old age & wants somehow to make it right with you.Maybe now he realizes what he lost all those years ago.

  I wouldn’t give him the satisfaction & risk opening up all those wounds.You moved on & had 3 sons. Live your life.Forget about the creep.Remember”living well is the best revenge”!!

[emmysmom]

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@151949 wrote:

It sounds to me like the OP still has feelings for this man. 

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No...the feelings I have are pain!...(I've been healing from my last ex..who died 3 years ago...he was very abusive...we divorced in 2010...) Old memories were triggered...

[emmysmom]

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@beckyb1012 wrote:

If you were not thinking about the photos yesterday then you do not need them in your life today.  Simple and sweet and so is the life you made without him.

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Thanks Becky for understanding..its NOT about the pictures...it was a way to get back in..or cause pain!

[emmysmom]

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@NicksmomESQ wrote:

@emmysmom   My heart is breaking for you.This man caused you so much pain.Don’t go there again.I think he feels guilty in his old age & wants somehow to make it right with you.Maybe now he realizes what he lost all those years ago.

  I wouldn’t give him the satisfaction & risk opening up all those wounds.You moved on & had 3 sons. Live your life.Forget about the creep.Remember”living well is the best revenge”!!

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Yes! You're right..I'll be fine...I doubt he'll contact me again..! Thanks so much! 

[emmysmom]

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@LTT1 wrote:

@emmysmom

I’d have painful feelings, too. You have these resolved in your own mind. Don’t let them be a real-play.

Would your sons take these? Their children might like to see. If you can contact a son and ask, do that.

Or set up a PO BOX and have them sent there...if possible do this thru sons. 

How dare are this man?  Not safe.

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My boys are from my second marriage...I don't know how to contact my ex...and I'm glad!!!!..I think its a God thing..He doesn't want me to go there..!!!! He never hurt me physically but the emotional abuse was horrible..I ended up in the hospital.. I was there 2 weeks because I couldn't eat..I was so depressed! The therapist I saw while there was wonderful.. I continued seeing him for a while and he's responsible for me getting well and moving on. My dad pleaded with me to never take him back. Thanks for your input! I really feel so much better after hearing from all of you..I feel I can move on..like it never happened! xxx