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[Bird mama]

@Winifred

Freddie, the more I learn about the situation, the more my hair goes gray.  Apparently, she was not allowed to open mail and her paycheck was deposited into his account, and she had no access to it.  She had to ask for money.  To say that I am horrified, stupified and almost short circuited by this information is putting it mildly.  Honestly, I can't find the right words in my vocabulary to express myself.  I first met him in 2005, they've been married since 2007 and now I learn she's been married to a bully all this time, Jesus Mary and Joseph!  I came from a matriarchal type family on my Ma's side.  I can feel my Ma, Grandma and Aunts spinning in their graves over this.

[mousiegirl]

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@Bird mama wrote:

@Winifred

Freddie, the more I learn about the situation, the more my hair goes gray.  Apparently, she was not allowed to open mail and her paycheck was deposited into his account, and she had no access to it.  She had to ask for money.  To say that I am horrified, stupified and almost short circuited by this information is putting it mildly.  Honestly, I can't find the right words in my vocabulary to express myself.  I first met him in 2005, they've been married since 2007 and now I learn she's been married to a bully all this time, Jesus Mary and Joseph!  I came from a matriarchal type family on my Ma's side.  I can feel my Ma, Grandma and Aunts spinning in their graves over this.

@Bird mama  I think it should be mandatory that young people be taught the signs of an abusive and controlling person.  Girls always think they can change a guy, but we know that no one can change anyone, only people can change themselves, if they want to, and sometimes that isn't possible.  

I learned on Dr. Phil yesterday, just happened to turn the channel, and his wife mentioned that one can go to i-tunes and upload, for free, a device that can be put onto a phone that will record an abusive situation in progress, "Aspire" I belive it is sponsored by, and a button pressed to call for 911, so there is proof for the police of what actually occurred.  I thinlk all girls should have this.

Your neice will be much better off without this piece of crud, there just needsto be a lot of encouragement and education to prove this to her.

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[Bird mama]

@mousiegirl

At this time I don't think she knows I know.  I can tell you that her elder sister and brother in law are advising her and there is legal counsel.  She's on the road to where she needs to be.  Baby steps. 

[Bird mama]

@mousiegirl

I held that child over the baptismal font nearly 34 years ago.  Suffice it to say, my middle sister is trying to keep me calm and out of jail.  I need to keep my emotions in check and channel them into positive and helpful actions.  I'm praying alot.

[mousiegirl]

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@Bird mama wrote:

@mousiegirl

I held that child over the baptismal font nearly 34 years ago.  Suffice it to say, my middle sister is trying to keep me calm and out of jail.  I need to keep my emotions in check and channel them into positive and helpful actions.  I'm praying alot.

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@Bird mama  I understand.  I would be livid and would have to be held back by someone/something.

[spix]

Afternoon, better weather in store for here, Hooray! maybe planting can be done by the week-end

Went to a Senior driving refresher course this am, as my license expires in Sept & roadtest is on the agenda I did need some updates, written test doesn't bother me at all, but the roadtest does, silly I know but still nerve wracking.  Local scuttlebutt says which DMV's are the best to take the test so that's what I'll do.  Hit the Weds only sale at my local grocery, so bargains galore to wrap, seal, freeze to be done now.

@Bird mama, sorry to hear about your niece, glad to know she's has people close to her to advise, etc, I know you're livid, I would be also, if I ever again run into my ex son-in-law there would be a show down for sure, divorce has been final for over 6 months but he still is insisting his child support is way too much $$  , we think it's mostly the new wife being the instigater, but he is a total jerk (putting it nicely)  anyway right now (being you don't know anything) best to just be available if she needs you.

@Winifred, Thanx again for the bagels/coffee & maybe you should just go on strike, see what happens??

[Winifred]

You know Spix, I ALWAYS blame the culprit, not the new person in a relationship. For example if the Father does the complaining he needs to man up with the new female in his life and tell HER, his kids come first. Course I do agree with many things being said this day and time about new relationships. WAIT.  Fellow use to live across the street and he and his wife had a daughter. The wife moved on to her new beau. Daughter stayed with Dad and he promised her he would NOT date, NOT get serious and NOT marry until she, the daughter, was out of high school and at least 18 years old. I was so proud of him and he is unbelievably MACHO. Good for him. That parting of the ways came about 4 years ago, his daughter will enter her senior year next year and he has held true to what he told her. The ex- wife, however, is still with the man but they have never married - she made her choice. Father and daughter live in a gorgeous new home - a far cry from where they came from - he had to file bankruptcy some years back and struggled but he has handled it well.

[Bird mama]

Hello all,

My sister has been moved from the neurology department to the rehab floor.  She's in rehab bootcamp - they do not play.  They treated my sister with immunoglobin for Guillain Barre and she is on the road to recovery. 

All praise to God, the Holy Family, St. Raphael and every other Saint I've pestered about this.

My sister is the mother of the niece in current flux about the divorce.

Hmm, sometimes when it rains in pours.  We've been through years like this before and have come through the other side so I have faith things will get resolved.

Thanks for the prayers.

[LTT1]

@Bird mama

My sympathies to you and yours. Prayers for all to come thru these crises ok. This is so tough for all of you.❤️

I just read the particulars ... Infusion therapy might hold some clues. It is good that they are now aware of her treatment. Poor dear.

Another poor dear for your niece... unthinkable. She will be so much stronger once he is out of her life. What a jerk.

[Bird mama]

@LTT1

Loves, I'm a firm believer that what doesn't kill you makes you stronger.  Now, you may not have the same nerves you had before, but adversity does have a way of making a person strong :-)