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[smoochy]

My own mom has been gone since 2008. My last Mother’s Day with my deceased son was in 2013. I’m blessed that my other child is alive and well. She messaged me a greeting from her home in Thailand. ❤️ So knowing from experience that this particular day is bittersweet, I was prepared. I didn’t go to church because I knew it would be all about Mother’s Day, and I purposely stayed off Facebook for the same reason. I read a book and did housework and watched the NHL playoffs. Knowing my triggers and planning in advance helps me get through certain difficult dates.

[Flatbush]

It seemed to be a particularly difficult day for many . Plenty of Mothers never received that special card with matching envelope. They were not forgotten and many other Mothers thought about them even tho most of them have never met. But, so many knew how painful the day was.

Monday is another day and starts a new week. Stay brave and stay strong. You were never alone.

[smoochy]

Thank you Flatbush. What kind and sweet words.

[Milo on qvc]

I can't relate to your circumstances but also feel relief the day is now over. I am a step-mother of six. No biological children of my own. Mother's Day is always difficult for me. I've been married to their father for 48 years. Every year is a mystery and usually disappointing. My youngest, 54 years of age with whom I had a particularly difficult two months, I thought was in a good place. But nothing yesterday. No card, no call not even a text. How much we have come down in giving gestures! It makes it difficult to think there is anything worth working on there. I was ok in the morning but as the day went on it got worse. Having trouble thinking about it and loosing sleep. As the week progresses, it will ease up and I will move on but the memory lingers.

Hoping all "Mother figures" feel their importance in children's lives. Biological Mothers, Step-Mothers, grandmothers, aunts, friends, cousins and all the other women who influence children in a motherly way.

[ScrapHappy]

I understand.  Even though I have a daughter (and husband), this was my first Mother's Day without my Mom.  

[meallen616]

Now that Mother's Day is over,

[chrystaltree]

I always struggle on Mother's Day.  I lost my mom 17 years ago and the holidays will never be as bright again.  I had a wonderful Mother's Day with my children , grandchildren, niecrs, nephews and hubby who is my rock.  But it was a bittersweet day for me because I thought about and missed my mother all day.  I lost my sister in 2020, she struggled around Mother's Day together and we supported each other.  Mother's Day and Christmsx Eve are when I miss my mom the most.

[Nataliesgramma]

This was the first Mother's day since my only daughter and her family moved to Florida. My SIL applied and got a better paying job in his field and they up and moved in a month.

While I am happy for them, and they are doing so much better down there, it was a shock since they lived less than a mile from me. I always cooked for all the Holidays and had them here for most of the day.

I got cards, gifts and a phone call...but it isn't the same.

[teganslaw]

It is hard for some. I don't do Mother's Day. I lost my mother in '87, have no children so it doesn't affect me. 

My mother never celebrated that day and didn't want any gifts or special events. She thought that Mother's Day was too commericialized, and refused to acknowledge it. We respected her wishes, and considered it just another day. If we wanted to do something special, we would do it anytime. 

[Gorgf]

@Milo on qvc. You are not alone..... however I  also had passing moments of  down thoughts. My Stepdaughter age 42 is a Postal Carrier  yet and didn't get a  mailed card out!  I texted her to wish her a Happy Mothers Day and sent a card. Last year she sent flowers so I guess I expected too much as reunited. I recently sent them $4000 to cover the car replacement from an accident ,as could afford to do so.

I raised her and her sister full time for 10 years and gave up having my own children.20 year marriage. I thought, I was working, going to school and raising kids and I could send a card. Her excuse was she was a day late and a dollar short.

At age 54 your son doubtfully are that busy? So excuse? It is hard with six step children and no one comes through! Her sister got really nasty so I refused to deal with her arrogant  mean tone but I reconnected with the younger one. Their Dad is on his 4th marriage and has faded away. Being a Stepmother is and was hard. I had all the responsibility and no rights. I am so sorry as imagine your hurts are magnified with six stepchildren? Thank you for posting......