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[kitcat51]

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@Silver Lining wrote:

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@kitcat51 wrote:

My grandfather sexually abused me when I was 6 & when I told my parents my mom beat me with a brush because she thought I was lying. I carried all of this confusing hurt with me & in my mid 20's after my grandfather died I had dream...I was standing in a courtroom in front of a judge, next to him was my grandfather sitting in a chair & the judge asked me..Does he go to Heaven or Hell? I thought about it & turned & walked away realizing it wasn't my responsibility to say, none of what happened to me was my fault & I finally could be free of it & at peace. I'm sharing this hoping others abused will find a way to peace too. Blessings.

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Thank you so much for telling about your dream and how it brought you peace. I would like to tell two people I know very personally whom it might help. One of them told his mother who refused to believe him and was then punished. The other kept the sexual abuse secret for thirty years before finally talking about it.

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@Silver Lining wrote:

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@kitcat51 wrote:

My grandfather sexually abused me when I was 6 & when I told my parents my mom beat me with a brush because she thought I was lying. I carried all of this confusing hurt with me & in my mid 20's after my grandfather died I had dream...I was standing in a courtroom in front of a judge, next to him was my grandfather sitting in a chair & the judge asked me..Does he go to Heaven or Hell? I thought about it & turned & walked away realizing it wasn't my responsibility to say, none of what happened to me was my fault & I finally could be free of it & at peace. I'm sharing this hoping others abused will find a way to peace too. Blessings.

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Thank you so much for telling about your dream and how it brought you peace. I would like to tell two people I know very personally whom it might help. One of them told his mother who refused to believe him and was then punished. The other kept the sexual abuse secret for thirty years before finally talking about it.

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@Silver Lining After I wrote it, I wasn't sure I should post but took a deep breath & hoped it was the right thing to do so Thank You for wanting to share it with your friends. I know abuse becomes a part of who you are but the shame & guilt that comes with it belongs to the abuser. I had to protect myself from my grandfather until he was moved to FL when I was 12, he never stopped trying & I kept it to myself because I didn't trust my parents. I learned many lessons from what happened & most have served me well. I don't consider myself a victim or a survivor... it's simply something that happened & I won't let it have power over me anymore. I wish your friends peace & what a good friend you are. Blessings.

[Silver Lining]

@kitcat51, thank you so much for sharing your story. It means a lot to me and will to my friends. Their pain has become my pain. One of them told me on his birthday, the other on a holiday. Thank you for your courage. Your dream was amazing and your thoughts speak the truth. You are very wise and very kind to share them here. Thank you and blessings to you, too.

[Happiness Is Inside JOB]

To the original poster, stay strong and please consider jus changing your phone number, I had to do no contact for my mental health!