Loud Music at Wedding - Page 2

Jaspersmom · ‎06-08-2011

Playing music so loud that it could pierce eardrums is an insult to and abuse of those on the guest list. It's the bass that vibrates through your chest so much you feel like you could have a heart attack. I grew up with rock and roll bands and have seen my share of concerts. My whole family (young and old) brings earplugs to preserve our hearing. The young people can live with the volume turned down a few notches. It's the deejays that force it on everyone. I've actually turned down invitations if I think I'm going to have a miserable night at one of these events. I love music and love to dance, but I'm not sacrificing my health because someone doesn't have the guts to tell the deejay to lower the volume. Why bother attending any of these events if you have can't even talk to the people at your table?

How I know it can be different is because of a recent wedding I attended. This was a second marriage for the bride and groom after they both lost their first spouses. Beautiful venue. Beautiful ceremony. Great party room in a popular catering hall. Very mixed crowd of old and young. Music was played at a reasonable volume and everyone got up to dance. Lots of fun.

cindyNC · ‎08-01-2019

As I'm getting older, I find loud noises bother me more and more. My audiologist gives me h*ll for not wearing my hearing aids, but it keeps life quieter.

CelticCrafter · ‎03-09-2010

I'm glad our wedding days are over.

Q-Checker · ‎05-09-2010

To add to what has been said, sustained loud noise can cause hearing loss. The "musicians" will sadly discover that.

Shelbelle · ‎03-09-2010

Hi, Bubby, I am also a Bubby so I get it, but as my kids keep reminding me this is the norm today, everything is geared for the youngsters. The older folks cant reallly make conversation.

cjm61 · ‎09-07-2014

@Bubby Mommy I wouldn't say "stupid DJ". If it was unbearable to all I believe the hosts or wedding planners would have asked to have the volume turned down. As mentioned, kids like it loud. Not much can be done.

I have to say, when I had my hearing tested a few months back my doctor said my hearing was so exceptional that nobody should whisper around me. So, yes, I do not like loud music but if that happens I just go outside, or step away from the music, or if I have to I will leave early.

I went to a wedding in August and it was kind of sad. My 3 year old granddaughter was excited to go to her first wedding. She got a special dress and shoes and said she was excited to dance. Well, the music was too loud for her and she wouldn't stay inside the venue. She spent the entire time outside.

Roscoe the Rascal · ‎04-19-2016

@Bubby Mommy wrote:
I attended a wedding recently. It was an absolutely beautiful affair - top shelf all the way. EXCEPT the DJ played "music" SO LOUD it almost burst my eardrums. It seems he configured the base to be prominent so in the songs that he played the singer was almost background to the BOOM BOOM BOOM of the base. My husband and I kept going outside to try to escape the noise. We wound up leaving early because it was so unbearable. The hosts said they realized the "music" was loud and not for everyone, but "that's what the kids want." I understand that, but can't a happy medium be met so that the "music" is loud enough for the kids but still maintain a reasonable volume for people to be able to talk without having to SCREAM in the other person's ear? What could have been a perfectly lovely affair was ruined by the stupid DJ. Am I being unreasonable?

Same here at a wedding I attended not long ago. Too loud and couldn't talk.

Bubby Mommy · ‎03-10-2010

Let me say that while at a wedding in August, the groom's mother asked the DJ to turn down the volume a bit. He did - for about 5 minutes - then it went right back up. At my own son's wedding I asked the DJ to turn the volume down and I got a "sour face" from the guy and he ignored me. It's up to the host paying for the wedding to tell the DJ at the time of the booking that they will not tolerate the loud music, and if they can't abide by that they will not get hired for the event. At my son's wedding (the bride's parents paid for the wedding) they once again told me: "It's what the bride wants." I very well couldn't walk out on that wedding, but I did go outside for a good part of the evening. I think it's the DJ "This is my business and I know what I'm doing, not YOU, lady" thing. It's a shame. Every guest should be able to enjoy the wedding with reasonable sound levels. If the bride and groom have chosen a specific list of songs/music they want played that's fine - just keep it a volume that's not earth shattering.

monicakm · ‎03-16-2010

Unreasonable would be to tell the bride and groom to turn the volume down, or you're leaving. Reasonable is to quietly slip out and that's what you did. It's their wedding for them to do what they want. They may regret it later down the road but that's not your problem. Sounds to me like you handled it nicely.