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[YorkieonmyPillow]

Nothing is wrong with you.

 If you had no response whatsoever to your son leaving, THEN I might wonder what is "wrong" with you!

I totally agree with @NycVixen......I think you're a wonderful Mom! 

[mamaglam]

There is nothing wrong with you, change is hard.  I went through the same thing with my daughter when she bought her own home while still single.  I am proud that she was able to purchase a home on her own and she was an independant woman.  You will get used to your new circumstances, I promise you.  It's okay to feel the way you do, but have a little faith and patience, you will be fine.

[qvc chick]

Oh my gosh, what sweet responses!  Sometimes we all need to be told we are good moms, right?

I know I will get passed this, and I hope we stay close.  He said maybe our relationship will be get better biw that he has moved out.  I would get mad at him alot, when he lived at home, because he was sloppy. 

[PinkyPetunia]

just wondering how old your son is?

Yes your relationship will probably get better as absence makes the heart grow fonder.  Give yourself time to adjust and enjoy being alone.  You won't have to yell at your son for being sloppy.

[qvc chick]

He is 30.  He is a late bloomer.  Always lived at home until now.

[Peaches McPhee]

Give yourself some time.  If you are still crying after 6 months have passed, then you can worry . .  . 

[Catty2]

Nothing is wrong with you.  This is a huge change in your life.  Be kind and patient with yourself.  Do you have a pet?  Having another living thing in the house may help.  I have lived alone for years and have always had at least one pet.  Keep us posted on how you are doing.  Take care.      

[qvcaddition]

@qvc chick

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@qvc chick wrote:

So I helped my son and his girlfriend move into their own place yesterday.  Helped unload, and spent the day with them.

I promptly returned home and cried my eyes out.  I miss him!

Ok, so what is wrong with me??

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Nothing.  This happen to me many years ago.  My Son was my best friend, helper, we ran together, did everything together.  When he got a girlfriend and moved out, it was lonely.  I had an abusive husband, his stepfather and my son would be their for support.

I got a divorce and was really living alone,. but it got better.  I took classes, volunteer, worked, went out with friends.  Time takes care of it and without realizing it, you get beatter and better and love living alone.  You do have to get involved with life though and not just sit at home or work and just go home.  Only you can make you happy or sad., no one else.  When you choose to be happy by yourself, you feel so good.  Best wishes and God Bless

[Big Sister]

Many years ago my very good girlfriend opened up to me about her son getting married.  She was sad and realized that he was no longer her little boy whom she "looked" after for 32 years, and that another woman would be taking her place.  She adjusted in time and has a wonderful relationship with her son and DIL.

You, too, will adjust to this new chapter in your life.  Life is really about change.  You have not lost your son, but you have gained a daughter to love.

[webbgarner1]

Lonliness is a terrible thing. I hope you will purue your interests, make friends. But, i have to say. Isn't raising your child into adulthood, and seeing them grow,  be productive, and prosper, have their own interests and families, being happy and fullfilled, , is not that one of the most rewarding things about being a parent.