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[dex]

@Cakers3 oh well what does it really matter.She is worried about being alone and just came here for advice.and morale support.I can give that freely to anyone  who needs it for whatever  their reason.

[halfpint1]

I live alone. My  husband died a little over 2 years ago. We just were lucky to find a house a with in a few bocks away altough not looking after he moved a few years before. He is not married and no grandren for me. It is very hard to make friends in California. I don't drive.  Buy too much. I have two cats. I try to take a walk every  day to get out of the house. Hardly know the neighbors for every one keeps to them selves. 17 years here. No relatives here.His relativers-one sister and her family and haven't heard in mid west anthing since then. 

[qvc chick]

CAKERS - Not sure why you feel the need to tear me apart.  I have two children.  When my daughter left for college several years ago, I most certainly felt sad.  My son was living with me for the most part, but would only be home for a few days, and when he was home, I barely saw him.  We were working different shifts.  But at least he was around some of the time.

Now that he has also moved out, I am struggling.  Now it is most definately an empty nest!  Not sure why I feel this way, I wish I didn't!  That is why I came on here, to feel some support from other moms that go thru this.

[CelticCrafter]

The only reason I didn't cry when our daughter went away to college or moved out on her own once she found her big girl job in another state was because I knew if I started it would get her going and I didn't want that for her.

She's our only child and I didn't want tears to make her second guess her decision or feel guilty about leaving.

[BExplorer]

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@Cakers3 wrote:

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@BExplorer wrote:

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@Cakers3 wrote:

@qvc chick  So when your daughter moved out your son was living at home and you didn't experience empy nest back then.

I'm confused as to why you had a problem when your daughter moved out when you were not left alone back then.

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@Cakers3  I'm not @qvc chick but think I may share her experience in this.  Though I still had a son at home, I cried my eyes out when my daughter moved out.  It's not always about whether or not there is another child left at home.  It is hard to watch each of them leave. 

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@BExplorer  She said she was left alone when the daughter moved out.  I'm not going to get into a contest over this; I asked a reasonable question for clarification.

The thread is still there.

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😃 Nope, no contest that I'm aware of. 

[CAcableGirl2]

@qvc chick  I know how you feel.  My youngest son moved out a couple of years ago and I was sad.  So now its just me and my doggies, and both of my children are happy, responsible, financially independent, and have grown into wonderful adults that I'm proud of.

When they lived at home, I was so worried whenever they weren't home, thinking something awful had happened.  Now that they are on their own, I know that I raised them to do the right things and honestly, I sleep better now not worrying if they are out late or why they haven't called to report in. 

Now is your time in life to enjoy the things that you like to do. 

As one poster mentioned, make sure your home is safe, be aware of your surroundings when out and about, and enjoy life knowing that your son is only a call away and to miss him terribly is perfectly normal.  It will get easier!