LIVING ALONE - EMPTY NEXT - Page 4

Susan in California · ‎06-02-2014

Sometimes the more difficult transitions have to be viewed differently.

If your son is moving out, it might mean something new and

exciting is happening in his life.

If your daughter lives nearby, you are fortunate.

Good luck to you, I know it isn't easy.

chrystaltree · ‎05-10-2010

Just give it some time. It's a new experience for you and you have to get used to it. I don't know why it's scary for you but if that's the case; change locks. Secure the windows. Buy some night lights. Sleep with a radio on. My husband works night shifts a few times a month and when he's not here; I keep a night light on in the living room and and the light on in bathroom off our bedroom. I keep the door ajar a few inches so the light comes into my bedroom. I don't like a pitch black house when I'm alone. I'm not afraid, I just don't like it. Do what makes you comfortable. If you don't like eating alone every night, invite a friend over for dinner or dessert a couple of nights a week. I know a single woman who does that. She loves to bake and she invites people over for dessert and coffee and to watch a movie or some tv with her. When ShopLc has their daylong Smackdowns, she has us over for a couple of hours to chat, laugh and shop. We're all watching anyway so it's fun to make a party of it.

viva923 · ‎03-12-2010

keeping busy is the best. i lived alone for 20 years (husband is retired military-he was gone so often, gone more than home). Cooking was the worst the first week he left. No one to talk to, just rummaging around an empty house.

You just pick yourself up, meet and greet people anywhere you can. I would attend church services with friends, i would not join the church, i would just go to be with humans.

Maybe joining a fitness place or going to senior center daily again to meet and greet people.

So when I would come home at night, i would be ready for quiet time and able to sleep.

I just pushed myself to keep busy anyway I could. When i was younger ,yes, i even had some ladies over to just talk. would have them bring something small to share. just kept life busy.

blackhole99 · ‎08-22-2013

@YorkieonmyPillow wrote:
@qvc chick How old is your son and why is he moving out?

I can tell you, living with your parents when you are an adult, is saying to the world you do not have what it takes to take care of your own needs. I think it's a millennial thing. I can remember when people lived with their parents until they got married. That was the case for both my parents and me.

Snoopp · ‎02-02-2015

@chrystaltree wrote:
Just give it some time. It's a new experience for you and you have to get used to it. I don't know why it's scary for you but if that's the case; change locks. Secure the windows. Buy some night lights. Sleep with a radio on. My husband works night shifts a few times a month and when he's not here; I keep a night light on in the living room and and the light on in bathroom off our bedroom. I keep the door ajar a few inches so the light comes into my bedroom. I don't like a pitch black house when I'm alone. I'm not afraid, I just don't like it. Do what makes you comfortable. If you don't like eating alone every night, invite a friend over for dinner or dessert a couple of nights a week. I know a single woman who does that. She loves to bake and she invites people over for dessert and coffee and to watch a movie or some tv with her. When ShopLc has their daylong Smackdowns, she has us over for a couple of hours to chat, laugh and shop. We're all watching anyway so it's fun to make a party of it.

I agree with you regarding lights at night. I keep a 40w led bulb on in one room at night and use night lights.

YorkieonmyPillow · ‎01-13-2013

@blackhole99 I'm aware of the stereotype - especially concerning men who live with their Mother.

I was just wondering if that is the reason he is moving out, (to escape being stereotyped and regarded as a weirdo), or if he has another reason, like moving to accept a new job, etc.

Of course the OP doesn't have to explain but I just assumed since she brought up the subject here, she wouldn't mind.

qvc chick · ‎03-10-2010

To those who are asking.....my son is moving out with his girlfriend. They both work an hour away from my home. They are getting an apartment together. It is the first time he has moved out, even tho he is 30 years old.

dex · ‎03-09-2010

@qvc chick@Well it is about time for him to move out of the nest...sad for mom but he does need to take charge of his own life’s path.I think it is going to be different for awhile but if you can get busy enjoying things that have been on your dream list I think you will enjoy living your life in a new way.

Cakers3 · ‎06-17-2015

@qvc chick wrote:
I am currently in a single family home, my adult son lives with me, but he is moving out next month. My daugher has her own place a few miles away.

I am not sure how I feel about living alone. Benn divorced for many years, and now with my son moving, will be all alone, except for my dogs.

Feeling a little sad, and probably will be lonely. Have alot of friends, but all of a sudden, the empty rooms/no noise, scare me.

Any tips?

@qvc chick I'm confused. When your daughter moved out last year you had the same issue about living alone. You didn't mention a son living with you; you were just concerned about adapting to living alone.

So did your son move back with you recently and is now moving out again??

"" Compassion is a verb."-Thich Nhat Hanh

RetRN · ‎10-01-2013

@qvc chick, I don't get it at all--your son is 30, how much longer did you expect him to stay living with you?

The people I know have all raised their kids to be independent and responsible so they could manage life on their own. Certainly, not living at home when they are 30.

I don't get what the big deal is about living alone unless you are very insecure and needy. Thousands of people do it and love it, find a man or a roommate if it is such a big deal,