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[Sage04]

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@Group 5 minus 1 wrote:

@Sage04 That is a great solution. She should be able to find someone to halp for a reasonable fee.

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@Group 5 minus 1  that suggestion was for the neighbor because the netting would be in his backyard away from the fence. Hope he finds a solution.

[PJinIA]

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@Group 5 minus 1 wrote:

@Sage04 That is a great solution. She should be able to find someone to halp for a reasonable fee.

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I just don't understand why you keep suggesting SHE should either do nothing or be the one to pay for a solution?

[Imaoldhippie]

Do not go to the police, the man is being responsible and kind to you.  I do understand that it is a pain in the behind to have your fence "attacked".

Maybe you could suggest the boys play at a local park if one is available in your area.  

If the holes are at the bottom of the fence maybe your neighbor could put cement blocks along the bottom on his side.  If the holes are in various places suggest to him to put some type of netting in front of the fence.

@BunSnoop 

[lgfan]

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@CelticCrafter wrote:

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@lgfan wrote:

Maybe you should change the vinyl fence to something sturdier like brick or cement. It doesn't seem like the neighbors are going to change so I would change the fence.

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@lgfan Do you have any idea how much fencing like that would cost?  It shouldn't be on the OP to make changes.  Her property should be respected by others.

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Yes, I do know the cost of a new fence but the neighbor is not being cooperative.  The situation can escalate to something worse if she calls the police, a lawyer, etc.  My suggestion was to find an alternative solution.  No one is making her put up a new fence.  It was just a suggestion.

[Sooner]

He's not a good neighbor.  He has done NOTHING to keep her property from being damaged.  If he's not doing this he isn't going to do anything else.  

Honestly?  I'd be tempted to move if I could.  Our last move was in large part away from a neighbor, and to a nicer house, but moving away from him was maybe better than the new house.

Where we are now is quieter and in a quieter neighborhood and it was worth it. 

[We rescue cats]

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@elated wrote:

If it were me, I would  contact an attorney and see if he can help resolve this situation. I am wondering if a cease and desist letter would resolve the situation. A cease and desist letter is a formal document that informs another party that their actions are unlawful and violate the sender's rights. It serves as a warning that unless the recipient stops the specified conduct, further legal action may be taken. 

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In your position this would be my answer to the issue. Before someone gets hurt or damage is caused to your home or property. We had to do something similar with a neighbor earlier this year, her trees were encroaching over our roadway in and out of our home and they were damaging our motorhome when we entered or left our home. She literally laid in the roadway to try to prevent the trees from being trimmed. FYI-the trees were actually on our side of the property line. Not pretty and she is no longer friendly, but so be it.

[chrystaltree]

It's apparent those boys aren't going to stop and the parents cannot make them stop.  Money isn't the issue, you need a permanent solution.  Invite him and the wife over for coffee and explain the stress of this.  Ask if they can put up some type of fence on their side to catch those errant balls.

[RedTop]

Work with the neighbor to resolve this.  

[Group 5 minus 1]

Most of these solutions are"proactive" for her. The neighbor is really not doing much. She either puts up w/this nonsense or moves.

[Group 5 minus 1]

@reiki604 No,he is not. But,I don't think the neighbor will continue to pay either. She is really between a rock and a hard place  and my heart breaks for her. Wish I could really help instead of coming up w/these ideas.

Growing up I lived in a rough part of town and I can see her problem. Nothing would have helped then and unless she is aggressive and the neighbor is nice I see no answer.