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[Mom2Dogs]

@granddi   We have all been sympathetic to her situation....but after a couple of years....we are tired of hearing about it..and we do suggest things to do.

[Mom2Dogs]

@Zhills ...Being alone and not interacting is the not problem....she needs to have something to do something with one of us most of the time.

The issue is since she is no longer working she does not know how to keep her self busy (by her self).

[geezerette]

After having the same routine for a long time and now having her world turned upside down not by her choice, could it be that your friend is simply afraid to start some activity on her own?

[BoopOMatic]

@Mom2Dogs  You stated in message #3 that she was working part-time.

[gidgetgh]

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@geezerette wrote:

After having the same routine for a long time and now having her world turned upside down not by her choice, could it be that your friend is simply afraid to start some activity on her own?

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@geezerette - bingo.

[newjersey]

@Mom2Dogs , hi, I live alone and can go days without talking with anyone. I'm ok with it as I keep myself busy.

[Mom2Dogs]

@BoopOMatic   Opps my error, yes she was working part time (same job she always had when working full time)...then the business closed the doors.  My apologies, I was not clear.

Since that job was gone she has been stuck. 

[RedTop]

I know many people who don't know anything but work; I am not one of those people.  Even tho my early retirement was due to my husbands failing health, I all but ran out of the hospital on my last day, and have never looked back.  

At this point I would tell my friend to figure it out; shut up, find a job, and I wouldn't be the safety net she falls back on anymore.   I do not have needy, clingy friends.  

[chrystaltree]

This is who she is and isn't about adjusting to retirement.  She's accustomed to working and having people around her and routines and having a purpose.   She has none of that now so she tries to fill up her life with in any way she can.  I'm married with kids and grandkids but I can relate to what she's going through.   After hubby leaves for work, it's just me here.  I straightened up the house and I don't have anything to do after that.  I do have two friends who are retired and we do things together but certainly not every day.  I'm not into daytime tv since I worked.  I can only read so much.   There really are no volunteer opportunities that I'd want to do.   She's not needy and It's mean of you to call her that just because you can't relate to her predicament.  I think she needs to go out and do things by herself but since her friends have been accommodating her FOR A COUPLE OF YEARS,  that isn't going to suddenly happen now.  I have been getting out by myself more and I intend to do more of that as it gets warmer.  On days when I'm not seeing friends, there's no reason why I can't go to a movie, the mall, a museum by myself.  

[SportyShorty07]

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@SandySparkles wrote:

Bless her heart!❤ It is NORMAL for her to experience such loneliness, and miss that which is familiar in this situation because it sounds like she does not have an outlet! She obviously LOVED her job.💝 and misses the ROUTINE of it daily. Is there a Senior Center in her area? There she will find many activities to keep her busy, and socialization with others just like her. She will keep as involved as she cares to, and make GREAT friends in the process!!There really is something for seniors of ALL interests and fitness levels.🥰

Please share some of these suggestions with her because now she is on my heart❤, and I would like to know if it helps!!!😊

~~~All we need is LOVE💖

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@SandySparkles  That's a wonderful idea, SandySparkles!