If you have an adult child, rate yourself as a par... - Page 2

software · ‎06-08-2016

When I look at the competition, I'm a 10

I see too many parents either trying to tell their grown kids how to live by being too involved, or they burden their kids with their problems, etc, by using guilt.

I'm neither.

jeanlake · ‎03-10-2010

My three children, in their 30s, and often their partners, contact us, laugh and share their lives. In return, we no longer pry into their lives or give a lot of advice. I'd rate ourselves above average with a healthy measure of good fortune.

"I took a walk in the woods and came out taller than the trees." Henry David Thoreau

151949 · ‎03-09-2010

I raised my stepchildren for 10 years until my husband died and their biological mother took them away to England. They still live in England but we are constantly still in touch (facebook and phone calls). I was only 12 years older than my stepdaughter so it was challenging for me, esp. her early teen years. Anyway, they tell me they still love me and all, so I guess I did OK.

Big Joanie · ‎01-02-2015

@Azcowgirl wrote:
I try ..... haven't always been the perfect parent... started
a family when we were kids ourselves, so had to learn
a lot, and learn it fast. Sometimes I wish I would have handled some situations differently and that haunts me
now and then.
I’m blessed to have great kids and good relationships with them and the grandchildren too so must have done something right.

You stated my answer to this question perfectly ....Especially about the

haunting part ... wish I had had more patients ....but I sure was better

than my own parents I can tell you that .....

But I will say that both of our children are devoted to us ...so you are right ...'

I must have done something right ....

Big Joanie · ‎01-02-2015

I think I would like to add that as parents of the adult children we are

doing great ....they have their own lives ... we do not interfere ... we are

here if they need us ... treat them like adults ... although I am suprised

I have a tongue left after all the times I have had to bite it !!!

And they like to spend time with us ....

happycat · ‎09-18-2010

I don't know, but my kids have turned out to be wonderful people and my daughter is always telling me what good parents we were.

Son doesn't say it often, but thats ok.

insomniac2 · ‎02-20-2016

9.5.

Tyak · ‎01-26-2013

@YorkieonmyPillow wrote:
On a scale of 1 to 10, 1 being a terrible parent & 10 being a "perfect" parent.......where would you rate yourself?

Enquiring minds want to know....

I like to think I was a good one so I'll give myself 7 ( all of us are far from perfect.)

YorkieonmyPillow · ‎01-13-2013

@chrystaltree wrote:
I don't have adult "children"; I am the mother of two adult women. They are both in their early 30's so they haven't been children since they were 18, I've had time to adjust to their being adults so at this point, I'm probably a 10. I know when to put my "Mom" hat on and how far I should go.

Oh....well!!! ExCUSE ME!!!!!!! I don't think they started out as adults, though, did they?

OMG.......🙄

Anyway......to rate myself, I would say 7 - 8 or thereabouts.

homedecor1 · ‎03-09-2010

Well being self-serving I'd say a 15 but in reality...both my boys are great people - compassionate, considerate & kind, hold jobs, one is a great dad & well, they aren't perfect nor was I but I'm happy they still call me Mom and are always there when I need them!

So I guess I did OK and they still like me😉 even if I drive them crazy!!!