Among Friends

[Lipstickdiva]

I haven't read any of the replies so forgive me if this is a repeat.

I used to think that way but then I realized, that's not really the way it is.  Most people who are thin and healthy eat healthy most of the time.  They may occassionally splurge but most of the time they are eating good, well-balanced healthy meals.

I also think most people who are thin and healthy exercise.  They may not work out hours a day, seven days a week but they are doing something.

And then there are those who do eat anything they want and are thin, until they aren't.  I have a cousin who used to eat like crazy and was always thin.  Her parents used to joke that one day it was all going to catch up to her and boy did it.  She recently had to have gastric bypass surgery.

[Marienkaefer2]

I used to be that way in my teens and 20s, even 30s.

I compared myself to everyone and I was miserable.

I had this idea of the "perfect" body and if ONLY I lost those 10 lbs, EVERYTHING would be better:  I'd be more confident, I'd be happier, etc.

Now I realize how much time I wasted being jealous of other women.

I have two legs that work, two arms that work.  I can do pretty much anything I want to do. 

I let go of the negative, and I love myself now! 

[hckynut]

I have heard the words, "wish I was as lucky as that guy(me) and was naturally slim". Those men and even friends often told/tell me how lucky I am to be slim. LUCKY? right!

My good friends know my being slim had/has nothing to do with luck, and everything to do with my exercise and my choices of foods and their amount. Guess "lucky" will follow me through life and eternity, heaven forbid thinking it actually involved planning/discipline, and a whole lot of hard work. Jealous of someone? That is not me, ever.

hckynut(john)

[chiclets]

You are being too hard on yourself and feeling jealous is not going to change anything. You know who you are and what you can and can not do. Everyone is different. If you can not change something then accept it and feel gratitude for the person you are. Look in the mirror and smile.

[september]

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@chrystaltree wrote:

Do you ever get jealous of women who can eat and drink anything they want and never get fat?   I do.  Not all the time but every now and then I do.  I felt that way when we were on Vacation with our friends in London.  I gain weight so easily and I didn't want to come back 8 or 10lbs heavier.  I ate the way I normally eat now, healthy.  It was hard to shake that  "why can't I eat like that?" feeling.  

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It's very rare that anyone can eat or drink anything and maintain a healthy weight/body fat.

perhaps you see some of these thin people indulging when they are with you, but I'm certain they're being mindful of what they're eating the rest of the time. 

[CAMOGIRL]

I figure I am in my 50's - never been a skinny minny- I have been super thin probably two times in my life - once I have no idea why and the second was health related. I do wish I was thinner than I am, but that just is not going to happen without starving myself and exercising at least a couple of hours a day. I may be a bit overweight but I am healthy. 

Not really jealous of anyone really anymore... been there, done that. It seems when I look at women, I no longer say "I wish I looked like that", now I just say "I really hate you". 😂  - just kidding!!