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[Karie2022]

I’m with you...if you don’t want or need a new ring, why bother...spend the money on something you really want like a nice trip somewhere...I’d rather have that nice memory than a ring that you didn’t really need or want, seems silly...I rarely even wear my ring and had it re done a few years ago...my dh wears his grandfathers ring....I’ve never been hung up on wedding rings, there just jewelry to me, there’s a lot more meaning in our history and everyday lives...but for some there very meaningful, and I totally get it...different strokes😀

[Allegheny]

@dex 

I totally agree.  I reminded him that we have no children to inherit the rings and why should we invest a sizeable amount of dollars.  We aren't poor but we aren't exactly swimming in money.  I keep reminding him one of us may need long term care in the future.

I have to be careful discussing things with DH, he get easily offended

[chrystaltree]

It's a lovely idea, I can't understand how any woman would object to it; especially on a landmark anniversary like your 25th.  Life is so more more than dollars and cents.  Yes, I think you should accept but that's because I'd walk barefoot through shattered glass to avoid hurting my husband over something like this.  However, since you phrase it as "gowing with the flow";  it's obvious that you don't want this and if he knows you well, he'll pick up on it.  There won't be any in those rings for you.  So, be honest.  Just tell him how you feel.

[Imaoldhippie]

How wonderful for you that your hubby is wanting to please you.  Just tell him straight up how you feel and dont feel guilty in the least.  He wants to please you so tell him what you want.  Good luck.

[Allegheny]

@qualitygal  Thanks, I certainily will look there.

But...there always seems to be a but to my stories.  He has seen this goldsmith who is a designer locally and wants to go there. DH told me we are going later today. I admit I am intrigued to see this husband/wife duos work.   

[qualitygal]

@Allegheny, whatever happens, I think it's probably one of the sweetest, loving,  most generous ways I've heard of in hearing his expression of his love for you.  That's so touching.

[Carmie]

I still wear my original wedding band.  My DH wanted to replace it, but I never wanted to.  The one I wear is the one we made our vows with...I don't wan't  a substitute.

The one I wear is very sentimental and has meaning.  A new one would not.

He did buy me an anniversary ring that I also wear, but I do not go anywhere without my wedding band.

If you really don't want a new one, maybe you could tell him, a new one would have no meaning for you like the original.

[Allegheny]

Ladies, thank you all.  Remember how Archie Bunker used to treat Edith.  Well DH is similar.  Underneath all the brovado Archie adored Edith, but she still had to live with "all his stuff".

[TaylorBrown]

I would let him do it just because he wants to.  Just as you have not worn your original ring very much, you can wear this one on and off as well.  I say let him have this one since it means that much to him.

[Allegheny]

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@TaylorBrown wrote:

I would let him do it just because he wants to.  Just as you have not worn your original ring very much, you can wear this one on and off as well.  I say let him have this one since it means that much to him.

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@TaylorBrown  That's probably how this is going to play out.  I gave in to him a lot to avoid conflict.   I just hate dropping 5-6K of savings.  Twenty years ago my cottage in the woods, ended up a cottage on a 2 acre pasture.  I have rued it every since.