Sorry about the loss of your Mom--and what you went through at your job.
I also had a problem when I took time off from my job because of side effects from radiation to treat my cancer on top of my Mom dying in a hospital 100 miles from me. I was a per diem employee and I was not paid for the 1 1/2 months I was away from my job.
When I got back, my boss called me in to review my job performance. I always had outstanding reviews. This time was less than outstanding (our raises depended on our reviews)--my boss told me she could not give me an outstanding review because I did not volunteer any time in the last few months to anything the hospital (I worked for) was invloved in--I didn't volunteer in the gift shop or at their charity golf outings or participate in anything to benefit the hospital. I was FLOORED! I had been fighting cancer for the second time--surgery, radiation---and trying to deal with my mother's issues--breaking her arm and leg, her surgeries, hospitalization, finding a rehab then a nursing home--and finally dealing with her in the hospital in a coma--while my having intestinal and bladder problems from radiation. I could barely go to work--and then I could not at one point--and I was being picked on and admonished for not volunteering--which had nothing to do with my actual job--I was a medical records coder. On top of that, my boss acted snarky and mean---what a nightmare. I argued with her about the unfairness of this--she wouldn't budge. I thought about it that night and discussed it with my husband---we both decided I should quit--no job is worth my health and I had my Mom to take care of--and so that's what I did--handed in my letter of resignation the next morning--my boss locked her office door as I packed up my desk--she did not want me to say goodbye to her--unbelievable, right? I was very sad and angry--but had more important stuff to dela with----my Mom passed away within a few days of all that and I had my mind on that for awhile. In the end, my boss got hers---Mrs Big Shot was fired--I never got the details--but that doesn't matter--the fact is that karma got her big time. I had heard she did others wrong too--and quite a few quit after I did. At that point, I decided to retire and here I am--five years later--still fighting cancer--Mom is hopefully resting in peace. I shall never forget what happened and how the career I worked so hard for ended.
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