Among Friends

[TX-starlight]

Why do people have to say hurtful things?? I wish more people would stop & think before they speak. I recently started on Medicare, which required me to play catch up on many medical tests, etc. After me posting on FB that all my tests were good, a "friend" messaged me asking what all tests I had. Then she asked "How do you not have high BP"? (I am very much overweight, but no bp issues or diabetes). I asked her why should I have high BP, she then states, most overweight people our age have high BP. 

That was hurtful to me, plus made me mad. I KNOW I am overweight. I would NEVER ask someone a question like that. I didn't even reply to her, & not sure I will. 

[ms traditional]

@TX-starlight  oh i am sorry about that.  i do think that the impersonal nature of social media, even when you're using your real name, seems to give people permission to say things they wouldn't necessarily say to your face.  this is not a good thing.  humanity is lost.

[software]

Ignorance is rampant.

Skinny people can have high BP too.

Besides all that, sorry your friend hurt your feelings.

Be glad you are not as crass as she is.

Deflect the conversation to another topic if she mentions it again.

Also be very happy to be Medicare age and have great test results!!

[Lapdog]

People can be bummers.  I am sorry that this happened to you. 

If you want to respond and get your point across in a funny kind of way. 

My response would be b*i*t*e  m*e.

[wishmoon]

I don't know why ppl feel they have to reach out and be deliberately hurtful. The only reason I can think of is that it somehow bolsters them. I'm sorry it happened.

[RoughDraft]

First of all, never give a weapon (personal information) to someone who may or may not be your "friend."  Once you do, it's a litmus test to find out for sure.

[judy0330]

I am so sorry this happened to you.  I can totally relate.  I had a very diffiult hand surgery in February.  After I told her about it -- a friend who has been a friend since kindergarten said that she hopes I am happy with the results because she knows too many people who have had hand or leg surgery and have not been pleased with the final outcome.  I was speechless.  I have no idea why anybody would say something like that rather than being supportive.  

[jeanlake]

Sometimes friends don't have filters. If you want to keep her as a friend -- make sure she's not a first-tier friend -- the kind you openly share your life and dreams with. She's probably a third-tier friend! 

[Kachina624]

@TX-starlightYou should have told her that her response was very hurtful since she's obviously too dense to "get it" without being told.  Perhaps youre sharing too much information?  The results of medical tests are usually kind of private.

[DiAnne]

There is always the possibility that this was an honest question and she did not mean to be hurtful.