How would you react? - Page 2

Drythe · ‎07-09-2011

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We are taking ballroom dance classes. We were initially invited by friends and over the last 4 months we made new ones. We travel 180 miles round trip in the evening weekly to be there and the reason we do this is to enhance our skills. Bottom line we got an email not to show up since we are not of the caliber as the rest and are holding everyone back in their endeavor to learn and be successful. We try very hard and do our best. We see ourselves as striving and improving and quite frankly equal to the others. We never expected for this to happen with less than 3 months to go. It is not a competition so I thought, but a class. I answered the email and gave suggestions on how we could continue and get extra help but with no response. I guess this is my version of venting since I am truly hurt and was depressed until I got my ice cream. LOL. We are resigned to just go somewhere else but the disappointment at the behavior of others is beyond my understanding.

@bonnielu

How rude, and mean, and tacky!

The instructor could at least have taken you aside and talked with you in person after your last class had ended.

You say you were invited by friends? Have you asked for their view of things? I would certainly get my funds back!

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CinNC · ‎10-05-2012

I took ballroom dancing w/my exhusband years ago - an evening class at the local school. The instructor was a retired ballroom dancer - and a perfectionist. She was incredibly nasty to people that didn't / or couldn't follow along. It was so bad one night that she ended up coming in the next week and apologizing to the class.

Daisy Sunflower · ‎10-26-2010

That's really strange. Since it's not a competition, why would the instructor even care -- so long as she's getting paid?

GCR18 · ‎07-03-2013

I imagine you'll never get the real story. It sounds like the instructor hadn't been coaching you in class since the email was a surprise. That makes me think it wasn't about the dancing. I'd ask for a refund and move on.

IMW · ‎06-15-2014

Sorry about the disrespect you’ve experienced. Extremely unprofessional behavior. If this was for advanced dancers it should have been clearly stated.

I would demand refund and post negative,but factual review on Yelp, FB etc. and dance on.

drizzellla · ‎03-14-2010

I think that is a good idea. Go somewhere else.

I am shocked at the instuctors email. And why waste your time with her? Please find another class closer to home. You are doing this for fun, please find another ball room dancing class that will be fun. And enjoy yourselves.

My girlfriend and I took several different dance classes. One was a Country line dancing. You should have seen us. We both showed up for the first class with sneakers on. Well, everyone else had cowboy boots and looked the part. We had no clue what to do. And everyone else knew all the moves. I bet people thought we were from America's Funniest Home Video. Well, after a few weeks we were at least passable. NOW - if anyone should have been told that we were not the same caliber as the rest of the class and please stop coming - it was us. But the rest of the class was patient with us and we gradully improved.

Wish your teacher was more interested in teaching.

Roni18 · ‎08-22-2013

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Sorry about the disrespect you’ve experienced. Extremely unprofessional behavior. If this was for advanced dancers it should have been clearly stated.
I would demand refund and post negative,but factual review on Yelp, FB etc. and dance on.

I never do this kind of thing, but in this case I would definitely do this. I would not be rude but just state the facts like you have done here. You paid for the classes, the instructor's job is to teach you. Other potential customers need to know what could happen to them as well. What a terrible way to do business!

haddon9 · ‎03-09-2010

Wow I'm sorry to hear about this. I can't imagine why your instructor expects you to be more advanced since it's not a competition. Why would they even care as long as they're getting paid and everyone acts respectful towards one another? It really doesn't make any sense at all!...which makes me wonder...are there any issues at all that you could think of that is making the instructor or others in the class uncomfortable?

If you really can't think of a reason I would tell my friends who I signed up with and ask their opinion about what could be going on. I would also insist on a refund!

It's all very strange and if it happened to me I would be very upset & hurt....plus I would drive myself crazy wondering why?! I hope you can get past it soon and not let it bother you too much. Find another dance class or activity that you can share & have fun with your DH while making new friends.

It's really a shame that something which should have been innocent fun to share as a couple with friends has turned into something so sour.

tweets12 · ‎03-19-2010

Wow thats terrible. Think I would find out who owned the company and explain as you have here to them Would also request a refund..

Kitlynn · ‎03-09-2010

First that is a very unprofessional way of handling things. Secondly I would request my money back. I think when you go to dance classes that is exactly what they are Classes. Everyone learns at different paces and if they do have competitions that is fine but they don't have to cut someone from classes because of it. Not everyone that takes dance classes enter the competitions. I would find another studio and continue to enjoy dancing. Don't let someone who is rude and has no manners or professionalism discourage you from doing something you enjoy!