How would you feel? - Page 4

happycat · ‎09-18-2010

I'd wonder why on earth she was bringing something up, to kind of put you down, over 50 years later. Is she jealous of you for some reason? Please try not to let it bother you. I think its an odd thing for her to say.

LilacTree · ‎03-25-2012

@chiclets

OMG, does it ever! You made me giggle, chiclets!!

Formerly Ford1224
We must always take sides. Neutrality helps the oppressor, never the victim. Silence encourages the tormentor, never the tormented. Elie Wiesel 1986

AngelPuppy1 · ‎03-13-2010

There was really no need at all for her to say that to you. She said something that was not nice and really served no purpose at all. I try very hard not to say unkind things to people but I think we all at times do, not meaning to, of course. But then there are others, who really say these things on purpose.

I will be honest and say that would have hurt my feelings as well. I was very, very skinny as a child and was teased a lot about it. I was also not very cute either as I was also a very sickly child, and was a late bloomer in all respects. So, I was subject to a lot of criticism and hurtful comments. It's easy to say --- oh, don't let these things bother you, but if you are the subject of these comments, its not so easy.

The next time I saw her, I would just ask her why she said that and then tell her that you felt it was unkind of her to say that. I would tell her that I would never say such an unkind or thoughtless thing to her and that I was disappointed in her -- and then I would smile nicely at her and be done with it!!!!

"A day without sunshine is like, you know, night." - Steve Martin

Lilysmom · ‎03-09-2010

@LilacTree , hers is one opinion. Insensitive to say the least. LM

Tinkerbell3 · ‎03-10-2010

This was years ago.....Let it go! Not a nice comment but not worth your energy!

CatsyCline · ‎07-24-2013

This was junior high. at that age its all superficial. From a young age, if they are blessed with beauty, some people place their entire self-worth on their looks.

i had a best friend at 14, Long black hair, stunning features, very built, brick house built... she looked 21. A bit too short to model. Not too bright. Got in trouble with guys, even married men. Voted Most Beautiful for senior year.

Now she owns a Med Spa that does Botox Fillers and Laser. When you are so stunning and beautiful its just hard when your looks start to go. i wonder what she would say to me now: "I was hotter than you"

Marienkaefer2 · ‎03-09-2010

@LilacTree wrote:
If someone you knew all your life said to you “yes, you were pretty, but you didn’t have a great figure,” she, on the other hand, had a great figure for the times. . . A “marilyn monroe” type of very curvacious figure.

I was very thin and undeveloped (at 14 was very ill and had to spend time in the hospital and lost a year of school).

I was taken aback for a minute, then found myself defending my teenage body!

We are both 81 now. Why did that hit me so hard?

@LilacTree

I think it hit you hard because you had gone through a traumatic period during that time of your life, and it has stayed with you.

I have carried a "complex" of sorts about my figure throughout my life because of something that someone said to me when I was 15!

It may seem trivial, but I was super sensitive at that time, and the way this person spoke to me really made a negative impression on me.

I've gotten mostly past it, of course, but at times it pops up.

So I think your reaction was completely normal.

If you have a garden and a library, you have everything you need.--Marcus Tullius Cicero

Trinity11 · ‎11-16-2014

@LilacTree....I have seen photos of you and your sister modeling back in the day. You were both beautiful and it is sad to read that your friend after all these years had to say something so hurtful to you.

Both you and your sister were dupes for Natalie Wood. I am sure you both must have heard that for many years. Even today, after all you have been through physically, you still look like a model. Just take joy in the fact that you are still beautiful and forget about your friend's thoughtless comment.

CelticCrafter · ‎03-09-2010

I've gotten to a point in my life where I can honestly say except for myself, husband and daughter I don't care what others think about my appearance.

I'm happy with the way I look and feel. Outsiders opinions don't matter.

Sadiesadie · ‎08-05-2011

@LilacTree : Wow, my first reaction as I read what she said, at 81!!!, boy is that woman still insecure after all these years to throw out that comment. I didn’t see it as much of a comment about you but for her to make herself feel better. Not sure what she looks like now but probably needs her memories of herself when she was younger.