Grrrrr.... Please don't call me " lovie or sweetie... - Page 3

Annabellethecat66 · ‎03-12-2010

OK.....wait now...let me go get my pencil so I can write down...now some say it's OK, to say this...not OK to say that...but it's OK....wait...I'm confused.

OK, you guys should just accept what they say and don't think about it. Probably their boss has told them to be courteous and/or say this or that to people.

In this age where if you look at someone they act like they're going to beat you up! I'm happy to even get a smile from another person.

Ordinarily, I'd apologize for being so smarty pants but you guys need to not let some of this stuff bother you.

No one knows what to say to another anymore. Perhaps I'm the stupid one. I thought people were just being rude by not saying "Have a nice day" or even smiling....maybe they just didn't know which phrase to use.

Just saying......

catwhisperer · ‎07-11-2010

@Moonchilde...I have known and worked with many people who use the terms "Ma'am" and "Sir". I find it to be very respectful. I used to work with a fellow from TN. He was one of the most polite, respectful people I have ever met. I worked in the contracting business and all of our customers loved him.

I promise to remind myself every day that I am strong, courageous, and resilient.

Moonchilde · ‎05-23-2010

I think peoples' feelings on this are going to split on fairly geographic lines.

Anyone who grew up hearing and using these terms, or having lived for a period of time where they are used, is not going to view the words or the intentions behind them, the same way. It's difficult to relate to something that's foreign to you, and difficult to relate to someone being offended by what you grew up with.

I do think that most of the time, whether on the phone or in person, we have a good idea of how it was meant, and our reaction in each case demonstrates that - simetimes offended, sometimes not

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catwhisperer · ‎07-11-2010

It's like anything else in life. Some people are offended and upset by certain things, some blow it off.

I promise to remind myself every day that I am strong, courageous, and resilient.

151949 · ‎03-09-2010

It does not usually bother me but when we were looking at homes to buy salesman kept calling us KIDS - we are retired for cripes sake- and that salesman is 30 to 40 years our junior. Car salesman do this in Florida too.

AKgirl2 · ‎05-24-2016

@tansy wrote:
@AKgirl2 wrote:
@pggoody wrote:
I don't like it when a store clerk calls me sweetie or " cute" names. Leaving Costco today the woman at the door called me " lovie" and told me to ve sure to drink lots of water. I felt as though she was making the comment because of my age. Yes, I know I am old enough to be someone's grandmother, but I am very active, fit, dress fashionably , am told I don't look my age. I had just left the gym so had workout clothes on and very little makeup. The way she made the comment , it made me feel OLD.
Guess I am just being sensitive.😳
I don't mind 'hon' or 'sweetie', never did. I do it myself! What j know I don't care for is 'mam'. Remembering vividly the first time I was addressed as 'mam' by a young grocery clerk, I was 33. I stood there kinda stupified and a bit embarrassed. Ouch...that was the first time I said 'do I look that old'! In my defense, I was a new mom and hardly getting any sleep. Good excuse😁
Your post reminded me that I do detest being called Miss or young lady. I'm in my 60s and those terms are just plain smarmy.

@AKgirl2

I agree...i wonder if they realize how politely insincere they sound.

What twits😌

catwhisperer · ‎07-11-2010

IMO, it may also depend on how one interprets the comment. If it is used in a condescending tone, it could come across as offensive. Mostly, I think people are just trying to be friendly and have conversation. As some posters have mentioned, it beats the alternative of being called a "B" or otherwise.

I promise to remind myself every day that I am strong, courageous, and resilient.

lovestopaint · ‎03-10-2010

Isn't it awful in this day and age when someone is trying to be nice to people they just don't appreciate it..

And yes everyone is offended now too.

Sooner · ‎03-10-2010

It is odd and I don't totally understand my attitude about this, but the only one that REALLY bothers me is "Miss" with my first name. Where I grew up, little girls were called "Miss Jane" and very old ladies were "Miss" but not anyone else, like for those not quite up to speed. . . LOL!!!!

Does it strike anyone else that way? Maybe you can explain it to me!

sparklestar · ‎03-09-2010

@pggoody wrote:
I don't like it when a store clerk calls me sweetie or " cute" names. Leaving Costco today the woman at the door called me " lovie" and told me to ve sure to drink lots of water. I felt as though she was making the comment because of my age. Yes, I know I am old enough to be someone's grandmother, but I am very active, fit, dress fashionably , am told I don't look my age. I had just left the gym so had workout clothes on and very little makeup. The way she made the comment , it made me feel OLD.
Guess I am just being sensitive.😳

The comment to drink lots of water???? Probably because of the heat. You seem a little oversensitive.