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[CelticCrafter]

When our daughter graduated from high school, 2007, you could buy announcements from the school if you wanted them.

We did not, IMO, it was like looking for a gift.

[dex]

I think it would look like you wanted gifts if you sent out cards to people announcing the graduation.I think family and close friends would be aware that he is graduating and send a gift if they choose to anyhow.

[Winkk]

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@dex wrote:

I think it would look like you wanted gifts if you sent out cards to people announcing the graduation.I think family and close friends would be aware that he is graduating and send a gift if they choose to anyhow.

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That's what  my daughter thought too @dex.

[CelticCrafter]

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@Graysonsmom wrote:

We just received a college graduation announcement yesterday.  My husband and I were debating if a gift should be sent.   I said yes and he said no.   Would live to hear some opinions.   The graduate is the fiance of my husband's godson. 

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I agree with your husband.  If it were his godson that were graduating, it would be a different story.

[Lilysmom]

I would totally view this as a gift grab.  Those close enough and important enough know what goes on in your child’s life.  Those that feel it appropriate will gift anyway.  Why set yourself up?  LM

[queendiva]

I sent announcements only for my DS' college graduations, and only to very close family members. The announcements were photo cards stating the date of graduation, the college, major and the honor. Both graduations were out of state, so other family members did not attend. Some sent checks, others did not. Both DSs requested not to have parties. They also preferred special restaurant dinners with closest family members following HS graduations.

@Graysonsmom: There will be plenty of time for gifts for fiance of a godson ?. Were it me, I would just send a card or note congratulating the graduate.

[MsChiff]

I wish more people sent them.  We have friends across the U.S. and several have had children graduate high school over the past few years.  I would have liked to send a gift as an acknowledgment of their achievement, had I known.  A great gift for someone is a check for the year of graduation (eg $20.18)

For the person asking about a gift -- if you're close with the godson and his fiancee, by all means get her a gift; if not, it's not necessary.

[AuntG]

Many young people aren't in to formal correspondence.

[dancingwoman]

We just received an announcement yesterday in the mail.  These people lived in our town years ago.  We see them maybe every two years.  Never speak on the phone or email.  They are friends of one of our friends but not that much us. 

DH says ignore it but I feel bad doing so.  Thinking of sending 50.00.  Not sure what I'm doing yet as I know this was a solicitation for a gift as they live  a 7 hr drive away and they know we won't be going to the party at their house....I have to decide...I don't want bad feelings with anyone....DW

[CANDLEQUEEN]

We received a High School Graduation invitation from my husband's nephew and they are having a big party. Now it may be different if you decide you don't want a party at all. But when my daughter's were in High School, you sent annoucements out to family, especially to those who wouldn't be able to attend....I am sure times have changed because this was almost 20 years ago now.....