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[chrystaltree]

If you have to ask for a compliment, it's not a compliment.  He's like a lot I'd men, they don't notice what women are wearing.  It doesn't mean they don't love their women, it just means they aren't wired to appreciate or even notice fashion/hairstyles/make up.  I'm sure he's always been that way.  I think you are at a point in your life where you need him to notice you but it's not going to happen.  Men like that show their feelings in other ways.  

[1Snickers]

 My husband didn't usually give me compliments. I do recall a cocktail party at s club when I wore a beautiful Grecian style long gown and my hair in an updo. He didn't mention it. 
  A Dr mentioned to me he had a new treatment for tennis elbow and felt my elbow. I didn't talk much because I had laryngitis. 
  After the party I told my husband I wish I'd been able to talk. He said "You didn't need to talk in that dress!" And he asked why that Dr touched me. 
   At least he noticed the dress!

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[Imaoldhippie]

I would never ask for a compliment from anyone including my husband.

If I look good to me then I know I look good.  

[chlema]

Married for 59 years before husband passed and I remember only once being complimented on something I wore and that was on our wedding day.  Never ever bothered me because I knew I had a good man that had a tiny fault.  This was the guy who gave me a box of drugstore talcum powder for my birthday when we were dating and yes, I married him anyway.  My motto is don't sweat the small things.  Four years later and I still miss him.

[Sage04]

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@Imaoldhippie wrote:

I would never ask for a compliment from anyone including my husband.

If I look good to me then I know I look good.  

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@ImaoldhippieI certainly agree with you but some women get all upset if the husband does not compliment her.

[Sage04]

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@ECBG wrote:

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@Sage04 wrote:

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@ECBG wrote:

@BunSnoop 

@NO WAY would I let DH get by with that!

You will get what you expect.

I do the "leg work"!  The first time didn't make it!

Done!

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@ECBG  I'm surprised you said that. You think a woman should "fish" for a compliment? Then it's a "pity" compliment. He would tell you what he thinks you want to hear. A compliment should be given without any prompting.

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@Sage04 

No.  I do not think women should "fish" for a compliment.

You misinterpreted what I wrote, that's likely why you were surprised.  If someone takes the time to get ready, a compliment can also come from a form of respect.

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@ECBG  sorry I misinterpreted your Post especially the part where you said  "No way would  I let DH get by with that".

[Sooner]

If you want to "train" your man to look at how you dress, you might get more than you bargained for if he really starts to notice how women look. 

[CatsyCline]

are you routinely  being self-deprecating about your looks, hair, body?   i think a lot of men feel they can't win if they GIVE a compliment and get, the "oh do i look fat in these jeans?"   response.  

and no i don't think "setting him straight"  helps at all! 

[SeaMaiden]

This is a VERY INTERESTING thread! I guess most men just do-not GET IT about how much a woman NEEDS attention...and compliments. Maybe someone could write a book  about it ...or teach a class in school on how to treat your  future wife😄

Men would really be amazed at how much better their life might me with a "happy wife"

[Pook]

@SeaMaiden  I do not get it either!!  Why would women need attention so badly that they would settle for their husband just throwing out a compliment to appease them and not be criticized?  I would suggest working on their own self esteem so they can feel confident about their looks and are not dependent on anyone else's positive opinions.  That confidence was/is the thing that most impressed and attracted my SO of 36 years to me!!  These are different times where a woman does not need any man's approval.  Emily Post already has a book out from yesteryear that gives that dumb advice to men!!