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[ccassaday]

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@Texasmouse wrote:

@ccassaday

That must drive your mom crazy. LOL 

I can relate!

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It does. My mom has become more of a neat freak as she has gotten older.

My parents aren't the type to hire someone to do a job they can do. So my dad not finishing things drives her more crazy. He litterally gets almost done then doesn't finish it. He has always been like that. He is doing a lot of stuff on the new house we are building. He has to finish though because the builder tells him when he can do something and it has to be done not to mess with the time line. Like next weekend he will be insulating all the inside walls. The builder only insulates the outside walls so to save money he is doing the inside ones himself.  When my mom nags him to finish something it makes it even worse lol. But after 46 years of marriage because they are different it works out well. If my mom wasn't there to balance my dad he would be a hoarder and have a messy house. She has always taken care of the inside while he does the outside.  

[VaBelle35]

I'm not married and never have been, but I am a neat freak, so I feel your pain.

My advice is to just keep the doors to those rooms shut at all times.

As someone posted, don't sweat the small stuff.

[Texasmouse]

@SurferWife

I hope everything turns out ok for you. Thanks for sharing. 

[ccassaday]

Instead of it driving you completely nuts look at it a different way. You balance him. I bet he has strengths that are your weakness. Just like you have strengths that are his weakness.

[Texasmouse]

@ccassaday

Sounds like us. What's hard is that most women don't want to come off as their husband's mother but they're put in that position. 

[Texasmouse]

@ccassaday

Absolutely! For example, if we have to fight over an unjust bill, he's the one who will do battle to make it right. I'm much more non-confrontational (obviously).

[ccassaday]

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@Texasmouse wrote:

@ccassaday

Absolutely! For example, if we have to fight over an unjust bill, he's the one who will do battle to make it right. I'm much more non-confrontational (obviously).

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Yep. That's how my mom is. She doesn't want to take care of stuff like that. Now she does write out and put the bills in the mail. But she will tell my dad to take care of mistakes or  if they need info on something to call a company to find out a answer to something. Wow that was bad sentence structure. Lol.  She jokes all the time that it's like cleaning up after a child lol.  When we moved to this apartment they made a mistake on our invoice for rent. Well they corrected it and put a note on the door and said we owed $50. She didn't understand why at the time. She goes you take it down to the office and figure it out. Things like that stress her out.

[AuntG]

Wow, I guess I'd just shut the door to his two rooms and not bother with an argument. The only thing that would set me off is if a rodent took up residence in his mess. 

[Texasmouse]

@AuntG

That's what I'm afraid of! 😮

[dal23]

Sounds like he might have ADHD.  If he's able to hold down a job and contribute to the household finances, consider yourself blessed, and hire a professional organizer to help him go through those rooms.