Re: Feeling a little hurt today

Lindsays Grandma · ‎03-10-2010

findingjoy...I know you posted this on the 20th

@findingjoy wrote:
My exhusband, who I have remained really good friends with throughout the years, just announced to my children, via dinner, that he is getting married to his live in girlfriend.

They have been together a few years, The Ex and I have been friends all the years since getting divorced, and I did not expect to feel like this.

Didn't really see it coming. She doesn't particulary care for me or my kids, so I guess I am just going to tell him we can no longer be friends.

Don't know why I am feeling this way. Guess because I do not have anyone significant in my life right now, although I feel like maybe I will start looking.

and I am a bit late responding to it. I just want to add that you should listen and pay attention to the kind posters who have given the excellent advice not to break your friendship with the ex husband when he gets married. He has been living with a woman for several years and yet you remained friends. He is still your friend and for your sake and the children involved, please keep it that way. You have more to lose than gain by ending the friendship.

Start going out and meeting new people and hopefully you will meet a great guy and the two of you can sail through life together.

The moving finger writes; And having writ, Moves on: nor all your Piety nor Wit Shall lure it back to cancel half a Line Nor all your Tears Wash out a Word of it. Omar Khayam

Plaid Pants2 · ‎03-14-2015

I find it more than just a little odd, that the o/p hasn't been back in nine days, and this is the only forum that she has posted in.

Oh, well.

She'll be back, with a new nic, and the same tale of woe.

If the story is even true to begin with, that is.

CouponQueen · ‎10-21-2010

With kind posters such as yourself..I wouldn't return either.

I have been a long time reader years ago when a loved one was seriously ill and I had hours to kill literally day/night in the hospital and YES I was one of those..that while a family was in ICU was on the net..I remember a poster getting bashed non-stop for it..and if you have never walked a mile in the shoes..than nobody should comment.

That said - I have had time to read a lot of posters..and in later years only get to read occasionally as I have a hectic crazy schedule with all kinds of off hours..off shifts..weekends etc ..mental illness has no schedule so when somebody is in need..you go..

There are a few posters that nics stand out for the lack of compassion and almost rude like remarks..unless it comes to them..

You do not know if this poster has another nic..or not..if it is the same story or another one. Either way - who cares? Obviously somebody is in pain and reaching out..and even on anonymous forums people are rude, crude and bully...but when it comes to them that is a different story.

Whose life is going to be any different tomorrow if you show a little kindness or compassion to another person? Whose life is going to be affected if indeed it is the same person with the same story and just as much in pain? Truly I work with the mentally ill and have for 30-years..and a little kindness goes a long way. It may not affect your day but it certainly can another's..for the grace of God go I...our Motto that is on all of our doors and vehicle sun visor..in a quick twist of fate our lives can change in a second..

sunny beach · ‎05-02-2017

@sweetee2 wrote:
If you are " really good friends " and you are upset about this, why did you get divorced?

Sometimes a life changing event can pull two people apart....The problem isnt always with the person ,it could be the way the person responded to the event.Reguardess,we cant help loving people who made us truly happy in life...........