@Parischic
OMG. We have so much in common. The children not speaking, although I have my middle boy who is very good to me and he lives 20 miles in Windsor. He does not understand about the other two. He says, they have their Fathers heart and he has mine.
we can't get to bibical here, they might close us, but turning to the bible and God is what gets me through all the really tough times, but also knowing he loves us and he has a plan and a lesson for all of us to learn. Sometime it takes a few hard knocks and a few years. When we are really lost and sincere, he answers through the good things and from the bible.
My daughter lives around the corner, and my oldest son lives one mile away. She is the head of the house for everyone. She gives the dinners for every holiday and is very wealthy.
She is not a bad person by any means, but I cannot get her to tell me why, what could I have done that was so wrong. I apologized not knowing what I was apologizing, but was so sincere for anything, but she said my apologize was not sincere. She is giving Christmas dinner and everyone will be there, all the grandkids and great grandkids. On that note, I helped raise some of them when she was working.
I was working in the ER 11 to 7 shift at the time. She would pick the grandson up at 6. I would lie down at 7 after taking care of a two year old all day, and try to rest before I left for work. I gave so much to all the grandkid's, trips to Disney Land. Modeling school for one, brought the clothes, and pictures and she doesn't talk to me today. The other one not just gave and gave, but saved his dog from death. The vet said, they are lucky to have you. I loved them all, and that little dog, when my grandson got mad at me for a stupid reason, I never got to see the dog again. The little thing knew when she was coming to my house. They said the minute they turned the corner on my street, it was hard to contained her from jumping all over the car. I don' regret it. I would do it again.
The son that lives a mile away, still talks to me. I have to tex him in the morning OK, and at night OK. He will be here if he doesn't get that message. As far as visiting, never.
I'm lucky one of them treats me nice and loving. Funny, growing up, the two that are hard on me are the ones that gave me so many problems growing up. The oldest and the youngest, not the middle one. They were 5, 7, and 9 when their father and I divorced. I was beaten up so bad by their father and he distroyed the inside of our home. He was a heavy drinker. The courts threw the book at him, when they saw the pictures of my body. I tried to help battery women years ago, but the memories were so bad, I relived them, so couldn't do it. I raised them all by myself until they turned 18.
They were all very successful in life. The one son said, you gave us a good foundation. I'm just happy it was the day before computers and cell phones.
I feel for parents today, because it has to be very very hard to keep the kids on point.
I love what you are doing today. You are making a difference in the world and the lives of the elderly. So many of us has been abandoned by family for whatever reason.
Sometime we are thought of as old, useless and stupid and nothing is further from the truth.
You have a difficult career, but you love it, so that makes it easier. You have a big heart and are a blessing to so many.
My daughter is 60 now. It's 3.5 years since anyone has spoken to me.
I have three friends who left their kids. One had a set of twins, and left them before they were two. She moved away out of state. Today, they are in their 20's and visit their mom and love her. Another, left all five of her kids when the youngest was 11.
The girl came home from school one day and mom gone Dad had to explain. He raised them. Yet today, they all get along with the mom. Pay for her air fare first class from her home to theirs. I was with them all this summer camping in Monte Rio.
They travel to see her at Christmas.
My daughter in law that has Alzheimer's, her mother was a druggie and also her father and use to hit her on the head all the time. She had a brain tumor that was cancerous just before she married my oldest son.. Yet they all forgave their parents for whatever reason. I was not abusive, just working three jobs, to raise my kids. They didn't have all the help you can get today back in the late 60's. Women were low on the totem pole.
Well, You can't look back in the rearview mirror and I am really OK, just can't understand what I did wrong. Neither can two people who are still alive and were there through the years.
You and I are the same as far as, we choose to make something from nothing. I can't remember the saying, but you understand what I mean.
I live North of San Francisco. Was born and raised in SF, and lived South for 15 years, in Pacifica. In 1976 brought a house up North in Wine Country.
I wish we lived close, we have a lot in common. You are my half sister's age. She is very nice and loving to me. Like the daughter I don't have.
Hey, we could write a book. It was great hearing from you.
You really made me feel good.
You are a special person for all that you do. You also proved that you can pull yourself out of a negativity by helping others.
Thank you. Many Blessings
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