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[Puzzle Piece]

@hckynut I can relate to your experience in a way.  I couldn't wait to leave the home I grew up in so I married to get out of the house.  A mistake but we divorced and went on with life.  This house has been a real home to me with my husband of 34 years. Sure, I will miss her.

[151949]

I know how you feel OP - DH & I moved into our house when we got married and lived there 28 years. We love Florida and our new home but when we go back to the old neighborhood we still have pangs and wish we could have kept our old house as it was a dream home to us. 

[stevieb]

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@hckynut wrote:

Can't relate. Born in Public Housing Projects, moved right before I was 14. Lived in home with my mother until she died after 16 years. Lived there 4 more very, very long years before I could sell it. Seemed more like centuries to me, Couldn't get outta there fast enough.

Lived in our townhome over 20 years, not a thing I miss about it since we moved into "our heaven". Been here over 16+ years now and have no plans on moving.

I have had more emotional connections to my new cars and Race Cars than to any home. Guess we are different, don't know anyone that would miss living in The Projects.

Cheer up, memories are forever, new housing? Not always.

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And yet it sounds as though you might have some of these same feelings if, for some reason, you had to leave your 'heaven'...

[stevieb]

OP, I don't find it all silly to have feelings of connection and potential loss related to a home you've loved. I think that's a pretty normal reaction. With absolutely no intent to sound snarky, I do, however, find it quite silly to refer to one's home as 'her' or 'she'... And yes, I feel the same way about handbags...

[hckynut]

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@stevieb wrote:

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@hckynut wrote:

Can't relate. Born in Public Housing Projects, moved right before I was 14. Lived in home with my mother until she died after 16 years. Lived there 4 more very, very long years before I could sell it. Seemed more like centuries to me, Couldn't get outta there fast enough.

Lived in our townhome over 20 years, not a thing I miss about it since we moved into "our heaven". Been here over 16+ years now and have no plans on moving.

I have had more emotional connections to my new cars and Race Cars than to any home. Guess we are different, don't know anyone that would miss living in The Projects.

Cheer up, memories are forever, new housing? Not always.

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And yet it sounds as though you might have some of these same feelings if, for some reason, you had to leave your 'heaven'...

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Your key words are "might and if ". Those words to me are the same nomenclature as the words "coulda/woulda/shoulda ", which definition to me is hindsight, which is always 20/20. I live in a "what is" world, the present, not the past or thinking I can read my future.

I also refer to it as "our heaven", plural.

[Big Sister]

I do understand your feeling sad about moving from your home; I would also.  While it is sad, it is also exciting to know that you will create a new "nest."  I loved creating my different nests.

[AKgirl2]

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@stevieb wrote:

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@hckynut wrote:

Can't relate. Born in Public Housing Projects, moved right before I was 14. Lived in home with my mother until she died after 16 years. Lived there 4 more very, very long years before I could sell it. Seemed more like centuries to me, Couldn't get outta there fast enough.

Lived in our townhome over 20 years, not a thing I miss about it since we moved into "our heaven". Been here over 16+ years now and have no plans on moving.

I have had more emotional connections to my new cars and Race Cars than to any home. Guess we are different, don't know anyone that would miss living in The Projects.

Cheer up, memories are forever, new housing? Not always.

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And yet it sounds as though you might have some of these same feelings if, for some reason, you had to leave your 'heaven'...

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You just might be right about that @stevieb...

[YorkieonmyPillow]

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@Puzzle Piece wrote:

@hckynut I can relate to your experience in a way.  I couldn't wait to leave the home I grew up in so I married to get out of the house.  A mistake but we divorced and went on with life.  This house has been a real home to me with my husband of 34 years. Sure, I will miss her.

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Perhaps if you ponder a new decorating scheme & start collecting things geared towards the new place, it will take your mind off the one you're leaving.

Sorry to hear about your neighborhood changing - not much you can really do about that, except what you are doing.

[stevieb]

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@hckynut wrote:

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@stevieb wrote:

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@hckynut wrote:

Can't relate. Born in Public Housing Projects, moved right before I was 14. Lived in home with my mother until she died after 16 years. Lived there 4 more very, very long years before I could sell it. Seemed more like centuries to me, Couldn't get outta there fast enough.

Lived in our townhome over 20 years, not a thing I miss about it since we moved into "our heaven". Been here over 16+ years now and have no plans on moving.

I have had more emotional connections to my new cars and Race Cars than to any home. Guess we are different, don't know anyone that would miss living in The Projects.

Cheer up, memories are forever, new housing? Not always.

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And yet it sounds as though you might have some of these same feelings if, for some reason, you had to leave your 'heaven'...

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Your key words are "might and if ". Those words to me are the same nomenclature as the words "coulda/woulda/shoulda ", which definition to me is hindsight, which is always 20/20. I live in a "what is" world, the present, not the past or thinking I can read my future.

I also refer to it as "our heaven", plural.

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The point remains the same... And, you see, for the OP, the transition appears to be imminent so it is "what is"... Given that, perhaps a little empathy rather than more espousing of personal philosophy, whether you can relate or not, might be in order... Just a thought...

[goldensrbest]

I think that feeling is natural, after living there for so long, alot of memories for you, i drive by the house we raised our boys in, and i can see those times we had in that house,we lived there 18 years, but the last few years living there was very bad memories, my son being hurt so bad in a car accident,we built a apartment on it for him,then 3 years later he died, i had to get out of that house, i could not stand seeing that apartment,so we moved,then  i had to move again ,when my husband died in 2013, there are no memories here in this house, it just does not seem like home to me.