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[goldensrbest]

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@stevieb wrote:

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@hckynut wrote:

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@stevieb wrote:

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@hckynut wrote:

Can't relate. Born in Public Housing Projects, moved right before I was 14. Lived in home with my mother until she died after 16 years. Lived there 4 more very, very long years before I could sell it. Seemed more like centuries to me, Couldn't get outta there fast enough.

Lived in our townhome over 20 years, not a thing I miss about it since we moved into "our heaven". Been here over 16+ years now and have no plans on moving.

I have had more emotional connections to my new cars and Race Cars than to any home. Guess we are different, don't know anyone that would miss living in The Projects.

Cheer up, memories are forever, new housing? Not always.

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And yet it sounds as though you might have some of these same feelings if, for some reason, you had to leave your 'heaven'...

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Your key words are "might and if ". Those words to me are the same nomenclature as the words "coulda/woulda/shoulda ", which definition to me is hindsight, which is always 20/20. I live in a "what is" world, the present, not the past or thinking I can read my future.

I also refer to it as "our heaven", plural.

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The point remains the same... And, you see, for the OP, the transition appears to be imminent so it is "what is"... Given that, perhaps a little empathy rather than more espousing of personal philosophy, whether you can relate or not, might be in order... Just a thought...

 Yes, he seems to never understand that.

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[Puzzle Piece]

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@Big Sister wrote:

I do understand your feeling sad about moving from your home; I would also.  While it is sad, it is also exciting to know that you will create a new "nest."  I loved creating my different nests.

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Thank you for your kind words. 

Yes, I know I will enjoy tackling the job of finding the right furnishings and look for the new place.  I guess I am too much of a romantic. 

[Q4u]

My sincere best to you in your newest move and hope that your new home will soon give you the warmeth and new memories going forward.  For me, it's never been the "shell" of the house that provided my comfort, but rather the furniture, decorations and pictures I've brought with me that have meaning for me.  As soon as all that goes up... my memories are with me and I go forward.

Good luck~!  

[riley1]

@Puzzle Piece - Oh, this brings back memories. I have tears in my eyes just thinking about it. We were in our home for 34 years, raised 3 kids and had so many friends and wonderful times.

We moved because dh retired and taxes were just too high. Our last day in our home, I lost it - I sobbed. My dh was so sweet, he just held me and said if I wanted to stay we would.

It took me about 3 years to adjust to our new surroundings. I think what I miss most is the "familiar" that I had. Places to eat, things to do, friends I had for 30+ yrs,  etc.

You too will be fine - it does take time to adjust. But, It is also new - I look at it as an adventure. Good Luck

[AKgirl2]

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@goldensrbest wrote:

I think that feeling is natural, after living there for so long, alot of memories for you, i drive by the house we raised our boys in, and i can see those times we had in that house,we lived there 18 years, but the last few years living there was very bad memories, my son being hurt so bad in a car accident,we built a apartment on it for him,then 3 years later he died, i had to get out of that house, i could not stand seeing that apartment,so we moved,then  i had to move again ,when my husband died in 2013, there are no memories here in this house, it just does not seem like home to me.

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I am truly sorry for your loss.  I see how you felt the need to move after experiencing such a tragedy there.  After living in my last home for 18 yrs, I've had three major moves in the last three years,

and it hasn't felt like home yet.  I know I haven't been in a place long enough to experience that 'at home' feeling, but in my heart of hearts I don't know if I ever will.  We have to try to make the best out of every situation.  I would love to live near the beach again someday.

[magicmoodz]

We all react differently to our life events.  We are moving in just a few days and can't wait for it to happen.  We currently live in a nice but not wonderful house in a highly-desirable neighborhood, with great neighbors.  

BUT, living in an older home we are realistic about the updating required to make it more maintenance free.  We looked into a kitchen remodel to the tune of $60,000 NOT including appliances or even the hardware on cabinetry. 

We didn't feel that to be a wise investment and instead decided to move.  I have long wanted to live in a new loft or condo in a very specific nearby neighborhood (it really is all about location, location, location!).  We found exactly what we wanted, put our house on the market and sold it in 5 days for more than 4 times what we paid for it.  

Bittersweet?  Yes, we will miss the familiarity of "home", but we look to the future with a sense of excitement and anticipation. 

[Imadickens]

I can tell you for sure that you aren't just leaving "her", you are opening yourself up for lots of new memories and great times! It sounds like you and I are similar. I figure out where my holiday decorations go before I arrange my furniture when I move to a new place! My parents moved often, moving to different states as he moved up in his career. Except for missing family (I'm an only child!) we all loved the adventure! After I arrived, we moved many times, basically flipping our houses for better, bigger, or nicer neighborhoods. We even built twice, which I loved! I remodeled the older homes with my own hands, often, so I left a lot of myself with each one, but I never looked back! I loved the excitement and challenges each new place brought! I imagine you have pictures of "her" to refer to when needed, but you surely will enjoy decorating your new baby! I wish you much luck and happiness wherever you live!