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[Lucky Charm]

I didn't know a Pap could diagnose menopause. Interesting. I never really went thru it, but I swear I did have PMS.

If you really want to give it a try, go to her house on Thanksgiving. Give it your best. If she becomes unmanageable and you are uncomfortable, tell her how much you love her. Tell her you looked forward to spending the holiday with her and her husband, not sure if there are children/grandchildren but you're going to head home as you see she's very upset. Offer To help clean up a bit, tell her you'll call her later and then give her a kiss and a hug and skadaddle.

[qualitygal]

Hope you clear the slate and start afresh. Don't miss Thanksgiving, no one promises you next year.....it's just so true.  

Evidentally, she's easily wounded at this medical stage of her life.  Time to cut her some slack, and just go easy on both of you, after all, you love each other. Don't lose that.

Best wishes for you both, and enjoy your Thanksgiving.

[BoopOMatic]

 I don't know all the details, but personally, I would just wait to hear from her.

 I certainly wouldn't go to her home without hearing from her first.

 Good grief, you're her Mother and she should be able to brush off hurt feelings for Thanksgiving, as you are 83 years old and deserve a little respect and consideration.

[hkrgrl]

you listened for hours and said u had enough and let's change the subject..

you did nothing wrong and her reaction is an over reaction.  menopause or not, that is over the top.

then she calls and asks you if u kicked the bucket???

dear Lord, that is cruel. 

i have no advice, need more background on your relationship, minus menopause. 

trust your gut and do makes you most comfortable.  

[bikerbabe]

Not all that unusual at her age. I am in my late 50s and I still have light irregular periods.

[JeanLouiseFinch]

Umm, I think she's being a selfish, inconsiderate, brat.  At 63, menopause is well behind her.  

[JeanLouiseFinch]

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@bikerbabe wrote:
Not all that unusual at her age. I am in my late 50s and I still have light irregular periods.

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I did too and that is not right.  I don't want to scare you but should see your gynecologist and have a hysteroscopy asap.

[TerryNJ]

Sorry you are going through this @pattiewaddle .

I think the advice from @ LaverneLuvsShoes, @freakygirl , and @ LdyBugz gave is very good.

[GoneButNotForgotten]

I, for one, feel sorry for you. I know the holidays can be hard for people who are estranged, especially if they are family. I wish I could say something to make you feel better. I'll think of you tomorrow and this weekend.

[Love my grandkids]

@JeanLouiseFinch Fascinating that you who are likely not a doctor is advising someone to have a hysterectomy asap. That's hilarious and way out of line.