Re: Feeling Betrayed, How Should I Deal

CalMom · ‎04-30-2013

I don't have the time to read through all these comments. However, we often look at what is wrong than is good.

You have so much more than many people. You have a husband who cares. Focus on the good things.

Wishing you the best.

Tinkrbl44 · ‎08-23-2010

I don't think ANYONE should do something for another if they're doing it with the expectation that they will reciprocate. Do it because you want to ... IF it's something they want. And don't assume people are psychic.

The reason I say this is because I have a neighbor who sticks her nose in everyone's business (under the guise of being "helpful") and some of her actions are NOT helpful.

Life is much different than it was years ago .... but if others are just turning their backs on people that they know need help, there must be a reason. Maybe one question that should be asked is .... who raised them?

Gayle2 · ‎07-12-2011

Hello,

I didn't read through all the responses so I may be restated something already mentioned. I think that people in this digital age don't reconnect the same way as perhaps they did years ago. I know that sounds weak, and maybe like a weak excuse but face to face stuff has taken a backseat. As others mentioned, you do have a support system. It may not be a comprehensive as you want but it is still there. At the same time, if it is REALLY nagging you, state your feelings to those that you feel have let you down. If you are kind in the way you do it, you may get more info.

excpa · ‎09-12-2015

When I moved to my new house after retirement, the woman who lived across the street came by with a loaf of hot bread/cake. I was shoulder deep in boxes with every surface covered...an obvious disaster. She found a place to sit and proceeded to tell me every rotten thing that had happened to her in her long life and even dropped heavy hints about my serving her some coffee with her baked good. I was in no position to make coffee, let alone serve it. She stayed for hours. I tried to be a good neighbor, but I always looked out for her before I left the house. I'm sure I was a big disappointment to her, and after she was so nice to me. (I threw the baked goods away. I'm diabetic.) She moved away eventually because she didn't think people were treating her well. I don't understand people who are so self-absorbed that they never see other people as anything but an audience of admiring fans. Reality is hard for them to take. So sad.

Tinkrbl44 · ‎08-23-2010

@excpa wrote:
When I moved to my new house after retirement, the woman who lived across the street came by with a loaf of hot bread/cake. I was shoulder deep in boxes with every surface covered...an obvious disaster. She found a place to sit and proceeded to tell me every rotten thing that had happened to her in her long life and even dropped heavy hints about my serving her some coffee with her baked good. I was in no position to make coffee, let alone serve it. She stayed for hours. I tried to be a good neighbor, but I always looked out for her before I left the house. I'm sure I was a big disappointment to her, and after she was so nice to me. (I threw the baked goods away. I'm diabetic.) She moved away eventually because she didn't think people were treating her well. I don't understand people who are so self-absorbed that they never see other people as anything but an audience of admiring fans. Reality is hard for them to take. So sad.

@excpa

Oh boy, I can relate! I've had a couple of those in my life and it can be a real challenge to be continually avoiding them!

While I don't mean to diminish the efforts of those that give with a pure heart (for lack of a better way to say it), there's nothing worse than a person who comes crashing into your life uninvited and think they are being "helpful". Sometimes you just want to do something yourself ... or are in no mood to have to entertain someone when you're overwhelmed!