FB Friend Deleted

TenderMercies · ‎06-03-2017

Have you ever discovered that one of your Facebook friends deleted you as a friend, but you can’t figure out why? This has happened to me a few times over the years. Not only does it make you feel bad and dumped, but more than anything, it makes you feel confused. I recently got a text from my old boss telling me that a former coworker of ours had unexpectedly passed away. I went to his FB page to see if there was anything posted about him being sick or traveling, etc., and I discovered that we were no longer friends. Just tonight, I realized that I hadn’t heard from another friend and former coworker in quite some time, so I went to check out her page and found that she also had deleted me as a friend. This one really hurt, because I considered her a good friend and actually helped her out quite a bit over the years. In both of these instances, both people had several of our mutual friends and coworkers on their friends list, so it’s not like they deleted their account or started a new one. If this happened to you, would you contact the individual to ask why they deleted you, or would you just let it go?

CareBears · ‎08-30-2015

@TenderMercies I have had what I thought were good friends delete me over the years, I just moved on, yes it did hurt, but I always figured they had something going on, on their end, and somehow being friends with me just was not a priority. And I also have deleted friends, Facebook is not not an important part of my life to keep in touch with people I have not seen or talked to in years, I have seen posts of certain people of how wonderful their life is, and this and that, when I know for a fact their life was nothing like what they were portraying. Please do not take it personally!

I am still oxox · ‎03-09-2010

If a friend deletes me, my thoughts are: sorry you did not like what I posted,

Stop being afraid of what could go wrong and start being positive what could go right.

lucymo · ‎12-13-2010

@TenderMercies I would just let it go. Their reason for deleting you are their own and probably not anything that you did. I've had FB friends delete me and I just move on not really concerned about why they did it. It is usually people that I haven't seen or heard from in sometime so it no big loss. But if you are concerned about why the lady deleted you, maybe ask her. FB makes errors too so maybe they really didn't do it themselves. Some people clean out their account ever so often, it could have been done by mistake. If you really want to know ask her.

on the bay · ‎03-09-2010

I thought you couldn't tell if someone deletes you as a friend?

That's what facebook tells us isn't it?

"If you walk the footsteps of a stranger, you'll learn things you never knew. Can you sing with all the voices of the mountains? can you paint with all the colors of the wind?"

GenXmuse · ‎05-15-2016

No, I don’t think they owe you an explanation unless it is your best friend or something. I would be embarrassed. Were your posts imflammatory?

TenderMercies · ‎06-03-2017

@on the bay wrote:
I thought you couldn't tell if someone deletes you as a friend?
That's what facebook tells us isn't it?

If you go to their Facebook page, and there’s an option to add them as a friend, then you know they are no longer your friend.

TenderMercies · ‎06-03-2017

@Bonanzajellybean wrote:
No, I don’t think they owe you an explanation unless it is your best friend or something. I would be embarrassed. Were your posts imflammatory?

No, I keep my FB posts relatively light and positive. I have a lot of colleagues as friends, so I try to keep things neutral and professional.

NYC Susan · ‎03-13-2010

@on the bay wrote:
I thought you couldn't tell if someone deletes you as a friend?
That's what facebook tells us isn't it?

You don't receive any kind of notification when it happens, but there are ways to find out if you're specifically looking for that info.

NYC Susan · ‎03-13-2010

There are lots of reasons why people unfriend. Sometimes they simply want to cut down on their friend lists, keep it smaller, maybe just family, or maybe they're taking a mini-break. I wouldn't take it personally, and I certainly wouldn't ask unless it was someone I was very close to - and even then, I would only ask in a joking manner.

I love Facebook - My family and friends are all over the world and it keeps us close, and I've had only had good experiences with it. IMO Facebook can be whatever you want it to be. But I don't get caught up in drama, and I don't take the whole who-is-friends-with-who thing too seriously.