Do have sons or have u Worked w/ BOYS? - Page 2

Carmie · ‎10-25-2010

These kids sound normal. Boys and well as girls roughhouse all of the time. My kids did it and I and my siblings did too. The kids in my neighborhood sometimes play rough. They have plastic light up swords that they swing and hit each other with and they also play tackle football in the lot next door.

They shouldn’t however, be allowed to do it in an after school program. They are not allowed to do this at school and by the time you get them, they are full of pent up energy.

It used to be easier to control kids. Today it Is next to impossible. They know that you are not allowed to discipline them. God forbid that you even raise your voice.

i volunteer at a local elementary school and I know first hand how different things are compared to what they were when I and even my children were kids.

My suggestion to you is to keep them busy in some kind of organized play. If they get up and run around with no plan, it will lead to rough play in a matter of minutes.

Good luck...take a deep breath and try to relax the best you can.

Carmie · ‎10-25-2010

@151949wrote:
If you are a person hired to care for these kids shouldn't you have the knowledge to be able to handle them? Set the limits and expect them to stay within them? If you can't do that - this is probably not the right job for you.
I went to a huge, overcrowded inner city high school.Our teachers weren't much at teaching us anything with 50 - 60 kids in a class - but one thing they were all good at was keeping behavior under control.

Knowledge in knowing how to control kids in today’s world doesn’t help one little bit. You are not allowed to put that knowledge into action.

If you even raise your voice, you could have a parent call you on it. Some kids don’t understand limits or they enjoy crossing them. There is NOTHING you can do to them if they don’t listen.

Dusty1 · ‎03-10-2010

@RinaRina

I have a son & a daughter, nieces & nephews, 5 grandsons & they have 2 girl cousins.

Boys play rough. They just do.

Jumping on people, punching (Not like Jack Reacher punching, but you know, boy punching.), wrestling...

Boys play rough.

That doesn't mean fighting to bruise & draw blood, although a little blood is not unheard of, beacause they ARE "fighting".

That doesn't mean that they are bad or misbehaving it is just how they play.

Hopefully they have been taught to understand when it is time to play & when they have to do other things. That it is okay to play, but not to hurt each other.

The boys will grab anything & whack people. I bought foam swords so they can whack with those, but not sticks or whatever.

I am not saying yes let them have knock down fights or bully people. There is a difference & hopefully they have been taught that, but you may have to remind them.

Good luck.

jeanlake · ‎03-10-2010

You're seeing normal behavior in a 'boys gone wild' environment. However, unless we want to create a future generation of misogynists, discipline and direction need to take place 'on the spot.' IMO. Unfortunately, outsiders generally aren't respected. Correction starts at home.

"I took a walk in the woods and came out taller than the trees." Henry David Thoreau

kitcat51 · ‎09-15-2016

I have sons & grandsons, this behavior is NOT normal. Boys do push & shove each other in fun but punching to hurt should never be acceptable. Find out who's in charge of this program & report to their boss what's going on. Honestly how is this happening...just simple name calling will get kids suspended.

SeaMaiden · ‎03-10-2010

I remember as a child my older sister and I getting into brawls... punching hitting kicking one another... I think little boys are even worse. As an adult I have never hit anyone or ever want to... but as a child it just came natually...

children are a lot like dogs playing... they play ROUGH.... it is just the nature of the beast.... nothing unusual.

RinaRina · ‎03-13-2010

@Carmiewrote:
@151949wrote:
If you are a person hired to care for these kids shouldn't you have the knowledge to be able to handle them? Set the limits and expect them to stay within them? If you can't do that - this is probably not the right job for you.
I went to a huge, overcrowded inner city high school.Our teachers weren't much at teaching us anything with 50 - 60 kids in a class - but one thing they were all good at was keeping behavior under control.
Knowledge in knowing how to control kids in today’s world doesn’t help one little bit. You are not allowed to put that knowledge into action.

If you even raise your voice, you could have a parent call you on it. Some kids don’t understand limits or they enjoy crossing them. There is NOTHING you can do to them if they don’t listen.

@Carmie

ITA!

I have always made it clear to anyone who hires me that I do NOT rigorously discipline other people's children. I retired from a job where employees made that mistake, and frequently, things ended badly. From observation, I've learned, that's a quick way to get on a parent's bad side and it makes the parent feel uncomfortable because the implication is that you are doing what they (as parents) haven't.

Most parents have their own way of handling their kids and frequently, kids have two different behaviors; one at home and another outside of the home.

Parents certainly know their own children better than I do!

Maybe "get used to it" was my co-workers way of telling me to keep things in persepctive ...

Thanks for the feedback.

"The less you respond to negative people, the more peaceful your life will become."

stevieb · ‎03-10-2010

SOME children, both boys and girls, can, at times, be boisterous, but some of what you're describing, OP, doesn't sound 'normal' to me... It might be typical for the environments in which some of the children were raised, but part of growing up means learning some level of socialization and it sounds like it's lacking. It also sounds like this supervisor is in no hurry to start helping to provide it...

In my pantry with my cupcakes...

Sooner · ‎03-10-2010

People are people and each and every one will be different. The old "boys will be boys" lets boys get away with a lot of bad behavior because people excuse it. EVERYONE should be taught how to treat other people and how to act like a human being.

embgm · ‎07-02-2014

I have raised three boys who have become wonderful young men. I was a stay at home mom with a huge backyard. I was the house with all the bikes in front of it. I must

say that there was a lot of horsing around.