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[scotnovel]

Can't imagine anyone asking for gifts for a 2 years old's party.  Most 2 year olds have more toys and clothes than they will ever need and they certainly won't remember having a party  I would want to tell the parents (but I wouldn't be that mean) to stop spending money on lavish birthday parties for kids and put that money in a college fund. That way they don't have to ask people to help pay for thier kid's education.  

[Nataliesgramma]

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@scotnovel wrote:

Can't imagine anyone asking for gifts for a 2 years old's party.  Most 2 year olds have more toys and clothes than they will ever need and they certainly won't remember having a party  I would want to tell the parents (but I wouldn't be that mean) to stop spending money on lavish birthday parties for kids and put that money in a college fund. That way they don't have to ask people to help pay for thier kid's education.  

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My feelings exactly!!

[Kachina624]

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@Desertdi wrote:

I was born during WW2..........during rationing.    My dad MADE my toys, mostly out of wood..............

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Or dad would give us some wood scraps,  a few nails and a hammer and it would keep us busy for hours.   The result?   We became very creative adults.

My parents thought themselves really lucky when they were able to buy me a used tricycle,  which dad made look like new,  for Christmas. 

[Moonchilde]

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@K9buddy wrote:

Amazon has a wish list that you can register with.  My daughter and her friends choose items for the kids'. That way they can put things on the list that they would like the kids to receive.  Mostly they are books, movies, tshirts, pajamas, and educational items.  This eliminates duplicates and the need to return them as well as junk toys.  With our busy lives where we often wait until the last minute to buy a gift and just grab anything off the shelf, it's a time saver.

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I think some people are confusing Wish Lists with a registry ala BBB. Adults have Wish Lists on Amazon and my friends and I used to use them all the time. Amazon sells *everything*, so it's one-stop shopping. I put things on my Wish List that I intended to buy for myself, and less expensive things (e-books and CDs) people could buy me for birthdays, Xmas, etc.

It's all in how the parents present it and how they decide to use it - as entitled greedy snobs, or as a way to let people know what (older than toddler) kids want and an easy way/place to buy it. I'd certainly rather buy a child something I know they want vs. flushing money on something they will never even look at, or consider "lame." Been through that too many times already. It's why I don't spend much money, so if my gift is considered carp it's not as annoying.

[Annabellethecat66]

Well my daughter's friends do that but then they are 9 to 13.

Thanks goodness my grandchildren do not do that.  I am very glad they don't do that.  I'll leave it at that.

[Day1128]

WHAT???  I guess it's all about what you can get. The kid is two years old and will probably enjoy the box the gift came in more than the gift. Sounds more like what the parents want. Who knows what the kids will expect when they are 16.

[debic]

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@Day1128 wrote:

WHAT???  I guess it's all about what you can get. The kid is two years old and will probably enjoy the box the gift came in more than the gift. Sounds more like what the parents want. Who knows what the kids will expect when they are 16.

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LOL, this is my vote.   I have toys and stuff for kids when my friend's come over and the baby's 1 1/2 likes my tupperware cupboard the best.  

Checking a kid's wishlist is much different than registering.  I'm pretty sure a 2 year old didn't pick out anything.

Growing up my son always considered clothes a rip off gift as you had to buy clothes for your kids anyway.   Even as an adult he has told me more than once not to buy clothes for kids.  Of course he has not concept of girls actually wanting something special in the way of clothes.

[Nataliesgramma]

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@Kachina624 wrote:

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@Desertdi wrote:

I was born during WW2..........during rationing.    My dad MADE my toys, mostly out of wood..............

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Or dad would give us some wood scraps,  a few nails and a hammer and it would keep us busy for hours.   The result?   We became very creative adults.

My parents thought themselves really lucky when they were able to buy me a used tricycle,  which dad made look like new,  for Christmas. 

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I remember making dresses for Barbie out of the tops of old socks...

[hennypenny]

Children need to learn to open a gift and make the giver feel special. Learning to express thanks for t he time and energy it took to shop and select something for you is a life long skill. 

People don't know each other any more. children don't play together or learn to resolve conflict. 

Please don't ever tell me what to buy your child. Don't worry it will be a non violent toy that is age appropriate and safe.

[Lipstickdiva]

A 2 year old registered on Amazon?  LOL  It's a 2 year old's party.  The OP did say she was related and she didn't say this was going to be some big grandiose party.  When my friends had b-bay parties for their small children, only good friends and close relatives were invited.  None of them ever asked for money for college education or registered their kids for anything.  They were happy with what they got.  Typically I bought some type of educational toy or movie/cartoon

I have a friend who is planning her 16 year old's b-day party and she came right out and said that her daughter wants to invite a LOT of people so she can get more money towards her car.  My friend very nonchalantly said it like it was perfectly natural for her to host a money grab for her daughter.