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[dex]

I don’t share my crabby self.I think if you allow yourself to be miserable too often it could become a habit.People who know me think that I am never crabby so I guess I haven’t let the crab out much.

[FuzzyFace]

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@Sweet_Serenitywrote:

Seems pointing out his mistakes pleases you. 

Well, yes, sometimes it does. If you knew someone who seems constitutionally unable to admit a mistake, whether big or small, and he finally had to admit he was wrong, it feels good.

It's also good for him to get off his high horse, once in a while.

Also, it works both ways: he enjoys sticking his nose in the air and insinuationg that because he has more education than I do (and he really does--a PhD in molecular biology and when the funding for his research ran out, he snagged a job at Mocrosoft and retired after 22 years)-we're BOTH Mensa members (ok, forgive me for bringing that up but that's how we met. we met. (You have to pass an IQ test to qualify for Mensa membership.)

I love my husband. This April we'll celebrate our 37th anniversary (where did the time go??) and even though we fuss and fight at times (what couple doesn't?) I can't imagine life without him. He's a great guy, just with a few little flaws (like the rest of humanity

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[FuzzyFace]

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@Kitlynnwrote:

No I am one of those people that wakes up being grateful that I did!  Just because your husband has a degree that you don't certainly does not make him smarter than you are. The question both of you should be asking yourselves is this "Is it more important to be right or is it more important to treat the other person with kindness?" Not always easy to do that and I understand being upset when someone is always telling you that you are wrong.

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Kitlynn, I've started asking myself that question more and more lately and it has helped me keep my sense of proportion about whatever we're arguing about.

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[Mom2Dogs]

@FuzzyFace....DH and I work together....ALL of our married life almost 40 years!  If he heard the things that I muttered under my breath, we'd been divorced years ago....sometimes ya just gotta vent, even if it is to myself....then I feel better.

[qualitygal]

Choose your battles wisely. Old advice. For what it's worth.

[FuzzyFace]

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@qualitygalwrote:

Choose your battles wisely. Old advice. For what it's worth.

It's good advice and there are times -- and not just with my DH -- I have to ask myself, is this a hill worth dying on?

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[happycat]

I don't wake up crabby, but sometimes people make me that way. I try to keep it on the inside though

[Trinity11]

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@FuzzyFacewrote:

Do you ever have days when you wake up, snarling at the world? I wonder if we should have a forum just for us crabby people to vent.

I'm certainly out of sorts today. My DH and I were discussing something and I disagreed with him and pointed out why he was wrong (that didn't go over well, hehe).

He said, you're not listening to me, (always his argumen of last resort)  and I said, yes I AM and I'm showing you where YOU'RE wrong." Since he has a PhD and I'm less educated than he is, he seems to think that, he'll always be right and I'll always be wrong. It doesn't go down well when I catch him out in a mistake--big mistake or small, he really hates it.

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I try my best to stay to myself when I am not feeling well. That's the only time I know I am crabby. When feeling well, I am usually in a good mood.

As far as educated people with PH.D's. Our family except for myself have one. They do not act superior to me and I know my worth anyway. 

It must be very hard to live with someone who thinks they are intellectually superior.

[jeanlake]

I have a suite mate at work. We have alternative names we use for ourselves when we're crabby. Makes us laugh. But we've determined that we're either focusing on fear or annoyed about something and we try to get our heads screwed on straight. Nice to work with supportive people.  

[Sookie Says]

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@dexwrote:

I don’t share my crabby self.I think if you allow yourself to be miserable too often it could become a habit.People who know me think that I am never crabby so I guess I haven’t let the crab out much.

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@dex  You crabby, NO WAY! You're way too nice.